@thumper1, @PurpleTitan also mentioned this. For starters, you are both somewhat preaching to the choir. As a middle aged adult who has already paid for his own college debt, and dealt with life, raising children, and so forth, I see eye to eye with you on this. Best bang for the buck, best ROI. College is a 4 year step in your life that is mainly an investment. Weāve had many family debates about this, and nothing we have said to our kids has had any impact.
I know at age 17, I was extremely stubborn, sure of my thoughts and ideas. Did I make mistakes in retrospect? For sure, at least by the numbers. Weāve had a lot of influence on our kids. In fact, all of the schools she is considering are ones that my wife and I guided her to. The only one she rejected was Uconn
I will say that as someone who did not go to UCONN, when I visited UConn in the 90s, I was shocked at how many of my former classmates I came across, in one single day. Including 2 different ex-girlfriends (ick). But to some kids, a clean slate after HS is a huge thing. To other kids, they want to retain their old base of friends because of comfort.
The good news is that my daughter has a few options that are the same or cheaper than UConn (MSU, Miami OH), with better programs for what she wants to do, after the merit offers. So that takes some of the financial strain off of this issue for us.
In the end she will be choosing between schools that are equal or less than in-state Uconn cost in one tier, and the other tier is whether or not she wants to borrow additional to go to a private school, or a higher ranking state school out of state.
Iām also working the phones as well. Iāve appealed and reached out for more merit, and it has been mostly successful. Additional 25K from RPI, same for RIT, an an additional 32K from MSU. Itās not over until itās over (May 1), so will do as much as we can to reduce the expenses.