<p>That is like crazy, yo. How do people figure it all out so quickly?</p>
<p>(Also overheard from a 1940s film set in the 1900s -- [paraphrase]: "But she may not even have to go to college! She's hit it off with this really successful guy!")</p>
<p>dood! my friend got engaged last year… which everyone thinks is crazy too! because she’s just a sophmore.</p>
<p>WHAT DO YOU MEAN “YOU PEOPLE”???</p>
<p>:P</p>
<p>Hey if you find the right one then I don’t see a problem with it. My great grandparents married quite young. A friend of mine, her grandmother got married when she was like 17 and she had a great marriage (at least that’s what my friend said).</p>
<p>I guess you kinda get lucky and meet the perfect person.</p>
<p>I don’t see anything wrong with it if it’s like senior year and they don’t plan to get married until after college. But anything earlier than that is a little iffy.</p>
<p>I don’t think age has much to do with it. My parents married around 30, they divorced fifteen years later.</p>
<p>My bf and I plan to get married shortly after undergrad, we consider ourselves engaged privately but he still wants to <em>officially</em> buy a ring and the whole nine yards before we make a big deal out of it with our families (he’s into that traditional stuff, I guess), which I won’t let him do until senior year because my grandparents (and mother) would probably literally die. Since we don’t plan to get married until after graduation anyway, that is my silent compromise with my family’s sanity. XD </p>
<p>People make the mistake of assuming that everyone the same age as them is in the same stage of life and frame of mind that they are, or that everyone is in the same place they were when they were that age-- that is completely untrue. You really can’t look at yourself and think, “gosh, I couldn’t have it figured out so early” and assume that is even remotely applicable to everyone your age. That is really all there is to it. Perhaps relationship-wise, I am just more mature than you are. There is nothing wrong with being where you are at now, nor is there anything wrong with me thinking I am ready to be engaged. It really is all just dependent on where you are in life. Everybody grows at different paces, and some people are lucky enough to meet the right person AND be ready for the right person to come along a little sooner than some others.</p>
<p>my greatgrandparents married around 19 and were together for over 55 years before they died - but in the early 1900’s, that was the common age. Now mid-twenties is more common. </p>
<p>to me the idea of getting engaged in college seems so strange. I’ve been with the same guy for over a year now, and we’ve lived together off-campus for a few months (although I’m moving to a dorm next semester 
) But I can’t imagine getting engaged…I don’t think of it as something people do at 19 or 20. Plus the idea of never being with another person again seems crazy to me. personally, I can’t see myself getting married until at least mid to late twenties. </p>
<p>I guess different people are in different stages of their life at this age. I think there’s a socieconomic bias to it as well…in low income areas, it’s more common for people to marry right out of hs or at an earlier age. I bet very religious people tend to get married earlier as well (or anyone “saving it” for marriage) :)</p>
<p>the idea of love and marriage is chiefly culturally defined…so - people getting married young, old, old to young, young to old, exogomy, endogomy, people marrying for money or other reasons, gay marriage, whatever - nothing about the topic really bothers me.</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/823994-marriage.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/823994-marriage.html</a></p>
<p>Well, Bella and Edward from Twilight got married right out of high school, and look how well that turned out.</p>
<p>Yeah but Bella basically threw away her college applications for marriage. That smacks of 1900s right there.</p>
<p>Well, Edward was 104, so that only makes sense…</p>
<p>What would Edward think of girls asking guys out?</p>
<p>Back to the OT, I have been engaged since I was a junior in high school. I am now a first-year in college and I finally got a ring today (so excited :)). I don’t plan on getting married until after undergrad. We have been going out for nearly 4 years. By the time my parents had been together for as long as my fiance and I have, they already had a toddler (and have been happily married for nearly 20 years now). I don’t see what the difference is between them meeting in their twenties and me and my fiance meeting in our teens. </p>
<p>I think it runs in my family though. Both parents married right out of high school (subsequently divorced). Sister married at 17 (widowed). Cousin just got married at 22 to a man she started dating when she was 15. Another cousin married at 18 (have been married for 6 years).</p>
<p>And to defy stereotypes- I was raised in a middle-high class area (although my family personally is now very poor). He was raised in an upper-middle class household and area. He is agnostic and I am Wiccan so there are no religious pressures. Neither of us come from families that pushed us to get married early or tried to interfere with our dating or marriage choices.</p>
<p>There’s a longstanding rumor at Carleton that 60% of our alumni end up married to other alumni. I think for me personally, the ideal situation would involve close friendship during college, dating for a few years after that, and then marriage. We’ll see how things turn out.</p>
<p>“How do people figure it all out so quickly?”</p>
<p>Marriage isn’t something you can figure out before you get into it. It’s a committment to take a lifelong ride together, but neither of you have any idea what the ride is going to be like. I got engaged my sophomore year, got married the summer after graduation, and celebrated 25 years last August. Having kids is the same thing all over again – you’re never ready no matter how old you are.</p>
<p>“He is agnostic and I am Wiccan so there are no religious pressures.”</p>
<p>So will a zombie oversee the ceremony?</p>
<p>^ No…?</p>
<p>10 char</p>
<p>Hmm. There have only been two marriages in my family in my lifetime, and they were both also in the early 20’s, now that I think about it. My sister got married at like 18 or 19 and she is now 28 and just had her fifth child, and one of my cousins got married probably at like 22/23, has been married like 8-9 years, and still doesn’t have any kids. I have my doubts about how their marriage is going. However, my sister had been basically excommunicated from the year before her marriage til about seven years later, and we are not close with that set of cousins at all. I was not aware of either wedding when it happened, and I don’t figure that I was very influenced by their experiences or any particular familial culture. My family are all very against young marriage despite the choices of a handful.</p>
<p>I’ve had a lot of friends get engaged/married in High School…</p>