<p>The truth is, that most people haven’t figured it out when they get married, look at the divorce rate. People think they have it figured out when they are young and stupid only to find out later that they made a mistake.</p>
<p>Sure, there are people who get married young and go on to have a healthy marriage that lasts their whole lives. They are the minority. The best thing you can do is take things slow, and wait until you have worked for a couple years before making a decision. Some people become the person they will be the rest of their lives in high school, but most people change. As much as people grow and discover things about themselves when they go to college, the same thing happens again after you graduate.</p>
<p>It even goes beyond this, I could probably write a 10 page essay on this based on what I have observed and read about. Point is that if you love someone you can live with them and having a happy life without marrying them. What is the difference anyways? Just take some time and live life a little before you decide you want to spend the rest of your lives together.</p>
<p>I think another part of the problem is that people think that they can’t argue in marriage. They don’t realize that marriage is all about compromise. If you can’t deal with change and conflicts in a productive manner then your marriage is doomed form day 1.</p>
<p>Euler, the reason for marriage is the benefits it brings. Tax benefits, power of attorney benefits, etc.</p>
<p>Don’t forget that marriage also has great religious significance for some people. Just another reason to add to the list in addition to legal benefits.</p>
<p>I think you may be misunderstand me, marriage is a great thing, just not for young people. If you and DCHurricane are argueing that you should tie the knot when your young for those reasons, then I disagree. Marriage is a big deal, and if you are under 22 and engaged then it is in your best interest to plan a long engagement (even if you’re 22 actually). There is no rush.</p>
<p>I’m not arguing for or against marriage at a young age. If you and your better half get along very well, always resolve arguments without conflict, and have been with each other for a long while then what difference does it make at 24 or at 34? I know plenty of people, such as my parents, who married around 30 and ended up divorced.</p>
<p>Couple has pre-martial sex in college. God becomes very angry. Girl is pregnant. Abortion is murder. Couple gets married. God forgives them. All is well. </p>
<p>One high school I attended (conservative Christian school), sends a lot of kids to Abilene Christian, Harding, and other COC affiliated schools which are famous for graduating kids with both B.A’s and Mr./Mrs. A few of my former classmates are married now. Though I don’t know how much of the scenario above happens, I’m just speculating ><. </p>
<p>It’s becoming less common now, even at conservative institutions.</p>
<p>Euler, I think the divorce rate is because people get married thinking they have it figured out, and the reality turns out to be something else. Thinking you already know what your marriage will be before it even begins is the surest path to divorce. Imagine planning out your child’s life before they’re even born.</p>