I’m glad that the essay was helpful and glad you were able to identify with one example, Howard, who had the same financial concerns as you
It is true that college is increasingly viewed as career-preparation. Tuitions are high and many students have loans. Parents are concerned with “return on investment.” It is also true that more vocationally-oriented majors can result in short term certainty about jobs. However, long term, I think pursuing what you genuinely love can lead to success, and that includes music.
And of course, if you want to be a performer, a BM IS career preparation. But that is not the only path available after graduation.
I am not sure whether you want a BA or BM but let’s assume, since you identify with Howard, that you want a BM with the immersion in music that you would like (ideally). A BM is 2/3-3/4 courses in music, and a BA is the reverse, with 1/4-1/3 courses in music.
Anecdotally, I can tell you that I once read music majors, as a group, had the highest admit rate to medical school. This may not be true now, I have no idea, but 5-10 years ago it was a reliable statistic. There are ways to take science classes during a BM program, but instead I think the best route would be a post-baccalaureate program. Example: https://www.goucher.edu/learn/graduate-programs/post-baccalaureate-premed-program/
You would definitely have access to business, law and nursing, and academic grad school as well.
I know a BM grad who works for Sesame Street, another who did a masters in Medieval Studies in the UK, one who runs a festival, another who created an outreach program for underserved communities, one who works at a start-up for teleconferencing (after some post grad work), several who teach, work for non-profits, many who went on the master’s or doctoral levels and work in a university setting, the list goes on.
Most conservatories and schools of music have courses in career development. They also have outreach. You can intern in areas within music or outside of music. For instance, I know a student who interned with an orchestra and picked up a lot of technical skills while helping with recording composers’ work in the studio, as well as skills in building websites, working with donors, and writing newsletters. All of these are transferable.
There are BM grads who make a living playing music (and these days orchestral is not the only way to go) and there are BM grads who have day jobs and there are BM grads who go on to other fields but continue to play the rest of their lives. We have a local ensemble composed entirely of MD’s.
The point is that a BM is a bachelor’s like any other. And most educated people know how rigorous it is, the kind of commitment and work ethic it takes, and so the degree is well-respected.
It is a leap of faith for sure, but my own view is that undergrad should be for what you love. I realize this can be tough for parents, with financial worries. But it really can work out. One important point, also in my view, is that it is absolutely essential to avoid onerous debt.
I hope others chime in, and hope this is helpful.