I strongly recommend you NOT look at the military for financial aid purpose. It’s not what the military is for. Serving (including immediate obedience) is a vocation, not a shortcut to scholarships.
If you want to serve and have high academic credentials, try to get into a service academy, or ROTC. Get a degree in engineering with another specialty (West Point has superb foreign language programs, for example).
In addition, someone’s who a good fit for Wesleyan is a good fit for many places - Grinnell, Oberlin, Hampshire, NCF, Reed - but not the military, which is pretty much the opposite “fit”.
On the other hand, are you being recruited - have you contacted coaches, have they written back? September’s pretty late, even for D3… hurry up.
Now, Wesleyan DOES offer scholarships - they depend on your parents’ income and assets, not on your football skills. Do your parents earn 75K and under? 250K+? Have you run the NPC already?