toledo
November 20, 2011, 8:19am
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<p>I think the OP is a young woman that is having a hard time adjusting, and is just looking for excuses to transfer. What better way than to ask other parents what they think of her excuses? I think we’d still help her if she were honest.</p>
<p>Here’s an earlier post:
Hey, I feel for you. I’m kind of in the same boat. </p>
<p>I’m pretty quiet and very mature. My boyfriend is 25 and everyone I associate with (I’m in a professional singing group for $$) is late 20s to early 40’s. So I entered college as a Freshman and, due to health issues, I am living in adorm suite on the far side of campus. I can deal with that because I really get along with one of my roommates, so I occasionally have someone to talk with. But–but–but–</p>
<p>I applied to and was accepted by my present state school, it’s very academic and highly intellectual. As my dad (who was a professor!) says: “those egghead types”. Well, I’m intellectual myself, but that’s not my entire life. I like walking through the woods, watching nature videos, going out to community events like art festivals, fishing (catch and release, of course), flying kites at the nearby beach, and just…well, being normal. But the kids at my school–which, by the way, advertises “over 40 on-campus clubs”-- don’t participate in much of anything. They spend the vast majority of their time studying and having intellectual debates, and when they aren’t doing that they are smoking weed or drinking to relax, up until 3 am and sleeping until noon. Well, I don’t do substances, and I have a tendency toward GAD when I become super stressed and unbalanced. I need good sleep, a healthy diet, and a fairly consistent, balanced schedule. </p>
<p>So I find myself actually driving home (50 minute drive) on weekends just to get out and about and paddle the family kayak or go fora long bike ride, maybe go to the Indie movie house. If I stay on campus it’s just drinking, weed-smoking, and then more intellectual debates. It becomes very stale and oppressive.</p>
<p>It was my choice to go to this highly regarded-school and now I wish I had spent more time looking at other options. Tomorrow my parents and I are going to tour another state school about 90 miles away with the mindset that I may transfer. It doesn’t have the great academic rep of the one that I am in now, and the location isn’t as nice, but when I looked over the clubs and the college newspaper online, I read about students actually participating in fun things that I like–there were photos of students with backpacks who had hiked through a state park for the weekend, there was an interview of some members of the Nature Club (on weekends they go to various Audubon bird sites)…this made me start thinking that okay, so the students aren’t quite as wrapped up in their academics, but they have more outside interests and time to follow those interests, which can be a very good thing!
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