<p>I'm dying to go to the University of Colorado Boulder (Ive been accepted and submitted housing) but I'm from Ohio and my mom wants me to go to the University of Cincinnati because it is closer and it's her alma mater. She is very adament that I will not be going to Colorado but I love it cannot imagine spending my four years anywhere else. (i've visited Boulder and I'm in love) the ONLY reason she is against it is the distance.
Any advice on how to convince her?? and money is not an issue in it.
and I know Colorado is a better school and I know it is the right fit for me.</p>
<p>Here’s a more important question: What are your options if she says no? Having already accepted your place at Boulder, haven’t you given up your spot at Cincinnati? Or did you “double deposit”?</p>
<p>You say money isn’t an issue, but unless <em>YOU</em> have money (child actor, started a business, inheritance from relative), it is. She has the right to not pay if she really doesn’t want you to go to Boulder.</p>
<p>That being said, I’d make a list of pros and cons of both. And be fair - say Cincinnati is closer and all the other ways in which it is better - but it is your list. WHY is Colorado better? Write it down.</p>
<p>Cincinatti - Closer, alma mater, better at abc (internship opportunities, housing, finances?).</p>
<p>Coloarado - Better in my major, better parties, skiiing.</p>
<p>When you present a reasonable (and legible) list, she might be willing to see it your way.</p>
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Why is it necessarily a positive that it is the mother’s alma mater? It sounds like it’s a non-issue for the student.</p>
<p>Sure - I agree it’s a non-issue, but if Mom likes it I’d put it on the list, that’s all.</p>
<p>Concerning money, i say it is not an issue because both my sisters went to out of state schools that are pretty close to the same amount as Colorado so I have the same opportunity as them money wise and my mom is not even the one paying for my education. </p>
<p>I made a pro/con list and Colorado wins obviously. better for major/ like the campus (I want suburban, not urban and social scene)
But also put down all the good things about Cincinnati
I just honestly cant picture myself there or at least being happy. I feel i am being forced to go there and I will just be thinking about this other great school I could have gone too.</p>
<p>Oh, and yes I did ‘double deposit’.
Thanks for all the input.</p>
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Who is? Does that person have a problem with Colorado?</p>
<p>My father is paying for it and he supports me but he doesnt feel comfortable sending me their without my moms support and I wouldnt want to go to a school without my mom supporting me.</p>
<p>You sound like a really reasonable person. I hope your parents see that, too. Do they get along well enough for you to sit down with both of them at the same time and tell them what you’re thinking? Your mom’s reasons for wanting you to go to her alma mater sound emotional–are you an only or her youngest kid? If this is the case, she may be struggling with the whole empty nest thing. Definitely try to sympathize with her. </p>
<p>If Boulder is known as a party school, address that with her. But get her talking about her real objections, as well as her reasons for wanting you to be close to home. If she sees that you are listening to her, rather than just thinking up your argument for why she is wrong, she might be more willing to listen to you.</p>
<p>Yes. Unfortunately I am the youngest and it is to my disadvantage. I know she was having a hard time with me even going away to college, but now that the college may be across the country, its making her more emotional.
My mom and dad are close and can have a conversation. Im just worried my mom is going to overpower my dad and persuade him that I shouldnt go to Colorado and that Im going to be ganged up on by both of them now.
She does bring up the party school but she’s worried the transition to college will be more difficult if im farther away (I know it will be but im willing to go through it to be at CU) shes worried im going to get super depressed and just isolate (i would never let myself do even if I was miserable, I would force myself to tough it out)</p>
<p>Also, I never visited Colorado before applying (I visited after being accepted) I pretty much just found the university through searching around the internet and she always brings up that I just pulled the school ‘out of thin air’ and have never really had a good reason to want to go there.</p>