SoccerMom,
I am sure that you have already done some of this. This, IMHO, is the best way to get considered for recruiting. Be proactive. Do not wait for the schools to come to your son. Some may come for him, but he will eliminate some options if he does not take the initiative. More options, in my view, are better than fewer options.
The first step is for you and your son to think about what he wants to get out of college and collegiate soccer. If you browse the various posts on CC, I think you will find a number of different perspectives. Some kids want to make an immediate impact and play 4 years, some want the challenge and intensity of a D1 program, some want the most challenging academic program – perhaps in a specific area – like engineering, still others are looking for the best price tag. Give your son permission to change his objectives, but there is still value to discussing and setting goals early on.
The second step is to go take a look at some local schools that fall into the category of school that your son thinks he might want to pursue. At this point, I would not necessarily meet with the coaches, but rather visit a school close to home for this part of your investigation. For example, say son wants D1 soccer at the big state flagship university. Go take a look at one and watch a practice. You need to be very honest with yourself. Your son may well be a star, but I am going to bet that every single player on that flagship unIversity team also is a star. Discuss the size of the players, speed, etc. and how your son could fit in. Then take a look at a lower D1 (like the Patriot League), an IVY, a D2 and D3 school. This will give you some idea of where your son would fit in and further help define your son’s objectives.
Make a college resume, and keep adding the awards and stats to the resume. This will help your son for the next step.
The next step is to fill out the recruit data questionnaire for each college that he might have an interest in. This sounds easy, but I will say that it is a time-consuming venture. Cast a wide net and keep an open mind. While there is no certainty in this process, it is almost certain that your son will have at least one change of heart during the process. So if there is an off chance that your son will want to go to Stanford, fill out the questionnaire.
Some questionnaires now allow you to download video. Hopefully, you have tapes. If not consider having a professional video made or make some tapes yourself.
Then have your son start contacting coaches by email or telephone. You may be surprised by the coaches’ responses. They will range from none at all to personal responses to invitations to camps. Do not be wowed by a large number of non-personal responses. As you note, this happens all the time. Better to evaluate what is said and if it is personal to your son. If your son chooses to contact the coaches by email, consider attaching a tape and/or the college resume. Also consider giving the coaches a listing of the tournaments or games that your son will be attending.
At a certain point in time, you will want to meet the coaches in person. This is a very important part of the process. While often initiated by the coach, your son should initiate some meetings. It gives the student great experience for job interviews later on and also for the coach meetings that really matter. Go with your son. Talk to the coach about your son’s athletic ability and whether or not he might be a fit for the team. It is absolutely critical to ask the difficult questions: Can your son get admitted to the school, ask for a pre-read, ask when son can expect to play, ask whether the coach cuts recruits. Usually, the coaches are candid, but of course, they are casting just as wide a net as we recommend that your son cast. Ultimately, this will give you the best information about your son’s chances of being recruited.
If I were you, I would get a baseline ACT score now while he is a sophomore. I think that you can take the ACT 6 times, but taking it as a sophomore gives you more time to identify what he needs to do (if anything) to improve the score and then to raise that score.
Best of luck to you and your son.