Please help

<p>I'm a high school sophomore. I get good grades in hard classes, ~3.75 UW, ~4.6 W. Even though I work hard , my parents are very cruel about difficulties I have in school. They have caused me to develop anxiety and stress. I tried to talk to them, but they have continued to belittle me. As bad as it sounds, they are going to pay for college so I can't really fix the situation. How do I keep my grades up, and stop the stress and anxiety?</p>

<p>Do you have a guidance conselor at school you can talk to? He or she might be able to reccoment someone to talk to? Maybe your pediatrician? Any aunts or uncles you are close to?</p>

<p>I can probably talk to one of my uncles. I never thought about that, thanks.</p>

<p>Please hang in there, and please come back to the board and let us know how it goes.</p>

<p>What are they belittling you about? What are you sharing with them? I ask because sometimes parents who can’t fix things may try and play down the issue and thus come cross as oh you can fix it not such a big deal stop whining.</p>

<p>I am not saying they are right, but maybe they feel that because they can’t help, making it seem smaller an issue they can somehow control it. Like If day a teacher unfairly graded a paper, they may say its you not the teacher. </p>

<p>I would look elsewhere for guidance just to keep the peace.</p>

<p>Hang in there. Ace the PSAT. Get a free ride and say goodbye-not forever, just until there is mutual respect.</p>

<p>My parents compare me to my classmates. They also boast on their own achievements. My mom, who is a successful pharmacist, requires a higher level of scholastic ability from me. One B in Algebra 2 is pretty much the equivalent of getting caught smoking pot or committing a felony in my family.</p>

<p>Have you talked to them about how this makes you feel? It’s possible that they mean well and are trying to keep you motivated (though they are missing the mark).</p>

<p>Pick a time when you all are not emotionally charged already. Tell them there’s something important you’d like to discuss. Then let them know that you are doing your best, and that you share their goals of doing well in school . Explain that their comments are having the opposite effect. Try not to be emotional or accusatory.</p>

<p>ncgirl, it is getting harder and harder to get into pharma school (or most other professional schools in the health field). I suspect your mom knows this is and is concerned about you. However, I do think that the stress you are indicating says this has gone too far is conterproductive. Please let us know how it goes.</p>