Hello, I am currently a freshman at Cornell university and to be quit honest I absolutely hate it here. It is about six weeks in and despite my many, many, many (joining clubs, sitting with strangers in the cafeteria, etc.) efforts I have not been able to make anything that even remotely resembles a friend. I am not a strange person or even an introvert. This, lately, has been causing some depression and I just feel awful all the time. It is all that I can think about. I have considered transferring to VA Tech but I have heard bad stories about transfer students struggling at new schools. However, Cornell seems like the perfect school for me besides the people who are either super preppy or super nerdy. I just can’t find anyone that I can connect with it at the moment it all seems very hopeless. If anyone has any advice or anything at all PLEASE HELP!
Honestly, it’s not worth it. Try to relax about it, be friendly, ASK PEOPLE TO STUDY TOGETHER, and you’ll make friends in due time. If you still feel that you really want to transfer, reconsider it next semester (or following terms).
Transferring isn’t going to solve that problem. You will struggle with finding friends as a transfer.
Broaden your horizons, those people who you find preppy or nerdy may make for good friends. You never know.
Great suggestion to form study groups!
Also, pop by the counseling center and talk with the folks there about your feeling “some depression”. Maybe it isn’t a big deal, and you will work your way through it, but maybe having someone to chat with who has helped a lot of freshmen get used to Cornell will help you sort your thoughts out.
I agree, transferring won’t guarantee you friendships. I find it hard making friends as well, but college isn’t all about friends lol. It took me a whole year before I connected with someone, and often times you connect but then never see them again after that class is over -_- tis life.
I suggest checking out this app called MeetUp, you can join events in your area outside of school (or starting a meetup in Cornell, you never know who is in the same situation as you!) and make friends in your age group that have different interests. It’s pretty cool, like a dating app but for making friends and casually socializing instead of dates XD
Please go to the College Life threads. There are many on this topic over the past few weeks with lots of good advice and things to think about that might help you. You are not alone, be patient, things will unfold if you let them. In the meantime, don’t slack off on your studies, they have to be a priority.