<p>Here is the problem: When I met my roommate last fall I soon found out he wasn't financially well off and I am but he did not know. He always complimented on my clothes and 2 days ago he asks me to borrow a shirt. I lend him one and actually give it to him. He looks at the brand and doesn't recognize it (european) and he googles it and its a $250 shirt. He gave it back and was mad I kept all this from him. What do I do?</p>
<p>Why the hell does he care if you have money or not?</p>
<p>He’s just upset I never told him. He’s not jealous or anything I just don’t know what to say as to why I didn’t tell him</p>
<p>bump please help!</p>
<p>Why would you tell him?
Why does your family income even matter?
Why did he look it up anyhow?</p>
<p>That’s exactly what I thought too why does it even matter but we had plans of moving to an apt this coming fall. I would always buy him lunch and stuff and clothes for his b-day and now he sees it as me feeling sorry which it’s not true</p>
<p>Tell him to buck up and be a big boy. </p>
<p>Money doesn’t matter. It obviously doesn’t determine intelligence since you both are at the same college. </p>
<p>That’s your culture of sorts. It has its perks and its negative things like everything else, and it becomes such a normal part of life that it’s not that important. </p>
<p>He just needs to get over it and not be offended.</p>
<p>Thanks for your advice</p>
<p>anyone else have any?</p>
<p>Sorry, I’m probably a bit too blunt. :(</p>
<p>I’ve been known to say exactly what’s on my mind, and it’s normally at least semi-agressive.</p>
<p>What sucks is this isn’t the first time this happens. It’s happened to me about 3 times with 3 different people. But what I dont understand it if I were to be a “show-off” then what difference would that make. They would hate me from the very start</p>
<p>Honestly, I think it’s a compliment to you that you aren’t blatant and obnoxious about your wealth. What do they expect? “Hi, my name is Joe and my father makes $500,000 a year.”</p>
<p>^ I agree. I think your friend is just being a jerk.</p>
<p>He probably isn’t a jerk on normal accounts from the sound of it, but he is on this regard. Maybe he’s just self concious about his annual income, but I think it’s irrating for him to take it out on you.</p>
<p>The way I see it is this: it’s not my money it’s my parents I haven’t worked hard to earn it so why should I go around telling people my parent’s income. I’ve tried explaining this but he just doesn’t get it</p>
<p>bump 10chars</p>
<p>Your friend seems like a tool.</p>
<p>But. Perhaps he’s just offended you weren’t “honest” with him? In a way that you’re not open about your life?</p>
<p>I think he thinks it’s about honesty but I see it as it doesn’t matter like now that you know it’s not like I’m going to change</p>
<p>Honesty is about telling the important things.</p>
<p>I don’t get what is so important about your income. He could have asked at any time right?</p>
<p>very true… well one i was at nordstrom shopping alone and he knew where i was at. He surprised me when I was paying and saw all the stuff I had bought. (before winter so lots of sweaters). He looked surprise but he didnt ask anything. This January I bought all his books for him as a late x-mas present and yet he didnt ask</p>
<p>bump 10chars</p>
<p>someone sounds desperate…</p>