<p>I've spent the past few days reading official decisions threads (the ones with accepted/rejected at the top followed by credentials), both current and from previous years, and I haven't been able to sleep much because of how I can't come to grips with how so many amazing people have been rejected. i've placed so much faith in my idea of who gets into college, i know stats dont get people in, but what the hell is this? stanford acceptances recently came out, stanford being my dream school, and the decisions thread really pushed me over the edge.
i feel so frustrated and indignant not so much for myself (sucks for me too obviously) but i can't seem to hold back tears when cc'ers whom i've followed and idolized have gotten flat-out rejected from these schools... not even the ones i admire get in?
its not even april 1st, and i'm not even a senior, and i can't get over this. i've heard so many people tell me that i shouldn't worry and rejection is okay but how are you supposed to feel okay when a school tells you that you aren't good enough and that you've been living a damn lie your entire life about how you thought your life was going to turn out, but god i can't believe i'm crying. i can't bear to read stuff like this, it makes me sick now whenever parents talk to me about college. i mean i've seen otherwise perfect students get rejected from all of their dream schools, but when i see others with terrible credentials get in (urms and otherwise) i feel so indignant i can't stand it i'm going frantic right now because i dont think i'll get in anywhere, i dont' know what i'll do to myself i dont think i can cope with stuff like this</p>
<p>i'm sorry i guess i'm not getting to the point. but i want to have some kind of hope
is there hope for people who just have damn good numbers? how important are the essays? please tell me that amazing ones are enough to push someone with not so good ec's over into the acceptance pool?</p>
<p>Do not hang your own self esteem or visions of the future on someone else’s stats, especially on CC. End of story. You don’t have access to their applications, nor have you seen their recommendations. Even if you’ve read their essays you don’t know it in context of the rest of their applications. Great people are rejected and wait listed every year, and sometimes total goofs get the acceptances. Do not base what you reach for on people here… next year is a whole 'nother ball of wax.</p>
<p>Agree with Modadunn. College admissions, especially at the very selective schools, are often a crapshoot. At the risk of sounding nauseatingly trite, college is what you make it. Success in life depends on the work you put in at college, not the college that you go to. Some of the smartest, most successful and interesting adults I know went to mediocre or nondescript colleges. Don’t get too depressed, and don’t base all your ideas about the college process on what you read here. When it comes time to apply, work hard on your applications, and remember that everything will work out!</p>
<p>Rejection is OK, a school like Stanford isn’t telling you that you aren’t good enough, they have too many people that want to go to there and they just don’t have room for everyone. Everyone has to learn to be rejected and not just from colleges. In the future you won’t get jobs you really wanted, maybe the person you have a crush on won’t be interested in you. Part of growing up is realizing that rejection is never the end of the world. There is always another school to attend, another job to get or another person who is interested in you also.</p>
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<p>Right now the top schoosl are trying to give a break to a few downtrodden. That’s just the way it is. Historically the URMs have had so much working against them it is time. At the very least you will get in to your safety schools. That is what they are for, be sure to apply to them.</p>
<p>thanks a lot. i was just a little overwhelmed… and i agree, coping with rejection is just part of growing up, something i have to work on. i guess all i can do is worry about what i can control and continue working hard, and hey, come decision time for me, life goes on.</p>
<p>You are the same incredibly, talented person you were before the admissions madness regardless of which schools accept you. Assuming you’ve applied to a range of schools, you should be fine.</p>