<p>omg people have to learn to take things less seriously. this kid shouldnt have a seizure just because i call him by his middle name. cmon what is the world coming to. my vp is an *******</p>
<p>^^ True that fidelgato</p>
<p>perhaps you should aplogize with a counselor there. Give the kid permission to say something to you. His perception of what happened may be much different than your perception. Give him a chance to air his concerns, with a neutral third party there, and then apologize for making him uncomfortable and promise not to do it again. and then everyone moves on.</p>
<p>You can tell him that you had no idea that using his middle name would be so hurtful and that you sincerely apologize. But again, see what his perception of the situatioin is.</p>
<p>I am sure your principal thinks a lot more than that happened.</p>
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<p>It doesn’t matter what you said. You were piling on a kid who already had been picked on enough. Perhaps you were in the wrong place at the wrong time; perhaps you weren’t the worst offender; but still, you behaved poorly, and your inability to accept any responsibility for your actions and words doesn’t reflect well on you. Get a clue: when you seriously offend people, you need to apologize. If you can’t do this, you won’t go very far in school, business or life.</p>
<p>Because you called him by his middle name? You just gave yourself away. That is a common tactic bullies use to mercilessly mock their victims (usually among the most vulnerable kids), particularly if the middle name is unusual, sounds strange or funny, or in some way brings up some negative connotations for the audience at the time. Now, you got caught and you want advice on escaping the consequences? Good luck getting out of that.</p>
<p>Fortunately for the victim, you realized that your chances of admission to college might be impacted by your behavior. oops. Better stop! Apparently, the impact of your behavior on the victim’s life never entered your mind.</p>
<p>Right, he has “anger management” issues. It couldn’t possibly be that you’re a vicious jerk who gets his jollies by making life miserable for other people.</p>
<p>^^ +1000. not much more needs to be said.</p>
<p>Not agreeing with your decision, but there are more than enough colleges that don’t require you to list suspensions, if you’re worried about it affecting your college admissions. There is at least one Ivy League school. Forgot which.</p>
<p>Everyone needs to back off the OP. This kind of thing happens in schools all of the time, and, whether or not it is right, it goes unpunished most of the time. He should not be called out for something that is a widespread occurence. And the anti-bullying people look awfully hypocritical when they call the OP names. Isn’t that exactly what they are upset with?</p>
<p>It’s irrelevant. The OP bullied someone else and all he cares about is how it impacts college acceptance. Unacceptable and appalling.</p>
<p>Seriously! I get so tired of all these anti-bullying do-gooders and their “blame the perpetrator” mentality!</p>
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<p>“…teased him” until he snapped. Did some “other stuff” to his friends. And you wonder why YOU are the one being blamed? Looks like a pattern to me. Poor behavior on your part and you are trying to push the blame off onto others. No wonder the vice principal is angry. He has a repeat offender on his hands - one that refuses even to see his errors much less correct them.</p>
<p>"if only you guys knew what a ******bag this kid is… whatever, i think i threw my vp off. he’s such a tool. "</p>
<p>Just because he’s a ***<strong><em>bag doesn’t give you the right to “tease” him (teasing is still bullying - it f</em></strong>ing hurts). That makes you just as bad as he is.</p>
<p>"Seriously! I get so tired of all these anti-bullying do-gooders and their “blame the perpetrator” mentality! "</p>
<p>I’m sick of people like you who try to downplay the impact bullying has on someone. Remember the gay suicides? The Minnesota teens that just hung themselves because of bullying? Remember Phoebe Prince, the Irish girl who killed herself after being bullied? Have you ever been bullied? I bet it didn’t feel too good.</p>
<p>Even if the kid who was teased was a “******bag” as OP puts it, it doesn’t make it right.</p>
<p>Don’t bully.</p>
<p>…And my sarcasm radar was off when I posted. Sorry Sikorsky. :)</p>
<p>I hope OP at least sees my post.</p>
<p>No worries, Ilyana.</p>
<p>Just so we’re clear: I think the OP’s attempts to shirk his responsibility for his own bad behavior, and to insinuate that the victim is making too much of it, are deplorable.</p>
<p>If one of my kids did that, I’d be ashamed of their cowardice.</p>
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<p>Guys, since none of us knows the OP or was there when the incidents happened, I don’t think we’re in much of a position to judge.</p>
<p>Either give advice, or don’t post on this thread at all. It’s sort of ridiculous to lecture OP about his behavior when we really have no idea what went on.</p>
<p>^^ No, but based on what he says, he’s unapologetic and is justifying it by saying the other person deserves it. I don’t know about other posters, but in my eyes, no one inherently deserves to be bullied.</p>