@bayfront2 – The two notes immediately above have lots of accurate and valuable info.
Has you son already applied ED? I couldn’t really tell from your note. If he has applied, then he should proceed as recommended above. If he’s not yet applied (after all, most ED apps aren’t due for a while) then he needs to have a more explicit conversation with the coach. If that’s the case, post that here and you’ll get some more good advice.
One thing that hasn’t been mentioned in this thread is that if you have targeted your schools well, your daughter will most likely be seeing all these other coaches during the season (think NESCAC, etc.) Even though our D1 contacted all coaches within a day or so of verbally committing, she still suffered hostility from some of the coaches that were recruiting her when she encountered them during the season. By doing the right thing, she knew it wasn’t due to anything she did. Helped reinforce her notion that she made the right decision.
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Thanks for everyone’s input. To close the loop, my daughter reached out to the other coaches before she announced her verbal commit to her friends and teammates. The other coaches were all very gracious, told her congratulations and to contact them if things changed. She did not mention the school she chose, nor did they ask though the already knew what she had narrowed it down to. It was hard for her to do but she is glad she reached out sooner rather than later.
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Congrats on the decision. Most of all good luck to your daughter.