So I am currently in a triple dorm, and one of my roommates is seriously nocturnal. She sleeps till 4pm everyday while at night she stays up until 5 am. I wouldn’t mind it…if me and my roommate had to not suffer from the effects. For one, when me and my roommate are trying to sleep, she is super loud at night, often laughing really loudly on something on her computer or crunching really loudly on food. I tell her to be quiet sometimes and she says she will, but still laughs to her hearts content. Then during the day, she sleeps, so me and my roommate have to be quiet. She has also been sleeping till 8pm recently so our room looks like a dungeon once we walk in since we have to keep the lights off. Me and my roommate of course turn our lamps on when we have to work, but it really sucks I can’t bring any of my friends over because my roommate is always sleeping till doomsday. I talked to my roommate about this and she is kind of annoyed about this too. I don’t want to change my roommates sleep schedule because I have no right and she is able to do whatever she wants,but I hate how it affects me and my roommates sleep at night.
First try to hash things out between the all of you. If that doesn’t work, get your RA involved so the three of you can set rules you can both live with for the next 3 months. If there is a common room I would think that after some set time (midnight, 1AM) that your nocturnal roommate should go there to watch her computer, eat etc. and you may have to live with not having friends over in the afternoon.
And definitely find someone else to room with next year.
When does the nocturnal roommate go to class?
I’m sure you must have filled out habits of when you sleep on the roommate matching form when you applied for the dorm room. ???
If she’s not who she said she was this should be pointed out with the RA. I mean, she requested roomates with normal sleep habits, right? You did not request a nocturnal roommate, right?
Have you spoken with her together with your other roommate and laid it all out how she’s disturbing your sleep at night and ruining your room during the day? It sounds like she might need an intervention to get back on track.
I feel for you, my son has the same problem. His situation seems hopeless. He can’t wait to get rid of this roommate next year.
I mean there’s 2 of you “normies” and 1 of her. Maybe she’d consider moving?
@redpoodles Not every school has a form or does any matching beyond true randomness.
lol @redpoodles - I assume you mean not room together (rather than anything sinister)?!
@bodangles, yes, that’s why I put ??? after my statement. MOST do. It gives a basis for the conversation/complaint if this was part of how they matched to this person. It’s as bad as requesting a non smoker and getting a smoker. You have to breathe. You have to sleep.
@GnocchiB Ha ha, yes. I have sent him ear plugs and am even willing to spring for a single next year so this kid can get some sleep.
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Have a room meeting. Talk about the issues and brainstorm ideas to solve them. Can you all wear earplugs when sleeping? Can people use computers in the lounge? However I think that sleeping at night should be the norm and have more sway over sleeping during the day.
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Stop by your RAs room and talk to them. Tell them the issues and you are a little worried about when she is even going to class…that you don’t like it being so dark all afternoon and evening. But you have worked out an agreement, but you just want to let them know what is happening. Or if you cannot come to an agreement, then say you all tried to talk about it many times before plust just had a roommate meeting and you feel like you are doing the normal thing of classes in the day and sleeping at night and are upset that you are not able to get a good night sleep and what do they recommend doing next.
You have also alerted the RA that your roommate may not be attending class. They may pass that on to the college.
3) If the RA is not helpful (give them a chance), then go to the housing office. Ask what they can do because you want to be able to sleep during quiet hours in your dorm.
So I did number 2 and my roommate has agreed to be quieter when she is on her laptop at night. But when I confronted to her about how loud she was, she said she didn’t notice. So HOPEFULLY she quiets down in the future, because I’ve told her to be quiet before and she says she will, but she still proceeds to be loud. I don’t think she realizes how loud she is.