Potty

<p>Okay, so I found out that one of my best friends is smoking pot and getting high every other week. At first, when she told me, I basically said, "***, i know you're joking; you're just playing with my head." But then, she was 100% serious. AND she said that I should try getting wasted sometime (which um... really isn't my thing). She said that she can control herself--she only gets highs once a week. Well, I'm basically begging her to stop getting highs because of health issues and stuff alone. Am I overreacting or should I stop worrying about it?</p>

<p>You're overreacting. If you friend wants to smoke pot and it's not like dominating her life or ruining your friendship you should probably not judge her or chastize her. If you make her uncomfortable about telling you the truth she's going to start lying to you and avoiding you. Smoking every other week doesn't sound very bad, as long as it's not affecting her in other areas of her life, which I doubt it is, since you didn't even notice.</p>

<p>as long as she's not taking money from people to buy pot...dont worry about it. People smoke it all the time and you can never tell...</p>

<p>No biggie.</p>

<p>This is from a parent, so if you don't want parental input, feel free to ignore this.</p>

<p>I think that there are good reasons to be concerned about your friend. In addition to the health problems that you're aware of, her pot use also could directly affect you.</p>

<p>Students and others who aren't into pot could learn about your friend's use and assume that birds of a feather flock together. That could hurt your reputation. In addition, people who drive while high are more likely to get into accidents than are people who are not high. Consequently, you could put yourself in danger if you ride with her after she's been smoking.</p>

<p>Also, if she somehow gets caught by the law and has pot on her and you are with her, you could be arrested along with her.</p>

<p>As for dangers involving her, if she gets into any legal trouble, that could end her ability to qualify for any federal financial aid, and it also could hurt her college admissions. Just check the book "The Gatekeepers" for the story of the girl who didn't get into Wesleyan apparently because she had admitted to eating a pot-laced brownie.</p>

<p>While it's true that many young people use pot, it's also true that many do not.</p>

<p>Reputation in high school is a joke, there are so many rumors and everyone cares about everyone else's business. I would say not to care about what everyone else thinks about you, in high school.</p>

<p>It really depends on how much of a true friend she is to you. If you find it worth it to help her, do it. But for God's sake, DON'T SMOKE POT!</p>

<p>I have friends who smoke pot. They are totally harmless, just LAZY and they eat all kinds of food. Basically every stoner comedy you have ever seen is pretty much true when it comes to potheads. (think half baked)</p>

<p>I can see where moms is coming from with the driving. If you cant tell she's been high..and you drive with her, that could be bad. Reputation though...Im with spanks on that one.</p>

<p>As far as getting caught by police with her...I wouldnt worry. There have been a few times when thats happened and I never got arrested for being around someone in possession.</p>

<p>Pot is not that bad.</p>

<p>i wouldnt care if i were you- so many people(excluding me) smoke pot nowadays thats its not that big a deal</p>

<p>Honestly, i'd let her parents know. if you're her friend, you've got to tell someone. counselor, teacher, parent, w/e, but do something.</p>

<p>^youd screw a friend over like that?</p>

<p>uhh no DMRenrel, that's lame. It's not like she's smoking crack. Her parents probably smoked pot when they were young too. I honestly can't believe some people here are so uptight and delusional.</p>

<p>^omg- big mistake
- this girl in my old school tried to tell a counselor that one of her friends was smoking pot and drinking- the counselor brought the cops to the school and searched her friend's stuff- they found cigarettes and alchol-they suspended her from school and sent her to rehab
-pot heads have friends-they ganged up on the girl every day and kept cussing her out
-if u want to help your friend, think it through first and make sure no one finds out it was you who told</p>

<p>its illegal...Hah I Know a kid who used to go to school everyother day high...i laughed when she told me im like...no wonder u did so bad in skool last yr! no wonder ur parents sent u to this school!(the people here r so strict it might just be military school) she once came to our school drunk it was quite funny..and weve had people come to school high this grl is extremely funny high(another grl in my class)...but it doesnt happen to much...boces has to handle her next yr(half day public school have day boces vocational training)</p>

<p>It shouldnt be illegal. There's a lot of ridiculous laws. Like in some state you cant chew gum in front of a preacher's house on Sunday..it's a law. Honestly, have some street smarts...pot isn't that bad..it's the least harmful "drug". I have friends who smoke pot. It makes them act silly and loosen up, but as long as you're not driving under its influence it's really nothing to worry about. If you're friend starts doing crystal meth or something then be worried, but it is natural to experiment with pot as a teenager.</p>

<p>FYI: The reputation problems that I was referring to involved people like the teachers and guidance counselors -- people who write colllege recommendations, nominate students for awards, etc. </p>

<p>Often such people have heard who smokes dope, and may also make assumptions about the students who hang around with the dope smokers. These assumptions may be reflected on recommendations that the students never see. For instance, many college forms that GCs fill out have the GCs to rate students' character. While many students may not think poorly of students who smoke dope, teachers and GCs may feel differently.</p>

<p>I have to agree with most of the previous posters-- it really isn't that big of a problem if she is smoking it ~once a week. There is a very untrue stereotype about people who smoke pot, that they are your typical movie stoners, just sit around the house, etc. While there may be some, it doesn't seem like your friend is like this. You probably would have noticed if she was. We've had the "OMG POT IZ BAD AND A GATEWAY DRUG" line beaten into us since we were younger, but most people make it through high school and college smoking pot but not moving on to harder drugs.</p>

<p>Alerting parents and guidance counselors could potentially be as hazardous to your friend as pot is, but for different reasons. Most adults will not look favorably upon it, and you don't want to ruin whatever reputation she has with teachers and guidance counselors, especially if (like someone mentioned before) they are going to be doing thinks like writing recommendations.</p>

<p>As for others concerns for your reputation, don't sweat it. People won't immediately assume that you smoke pot just because your friend does, and even if they do, to be quite honest, most high schoolers won't care. From my experience, at least, smoking pot and drinking alcohol is not a sign of a slacker or a bad student.</p>