<p>During the past few years of high school, I have been so obsessed with getting into the "top" colleges, mostly because of all the time I've spent on CC. Now that I have gotten into my dream university and WAY more, I have started feeling depressed about, well, pretty much everything. </p>
<p>I am absolutely freaked out about my future, what my career goals are (there is nothing that I can imagine myself doing), how I am going to deal with not seeing my parents much from now, when I am ever going to find the time to relax, and whether or not I am going to fail out (and what to do in that case). From the looks of it, it doesn't seem like I am prepared enough for the college that I will be attending. </p>
<p>I used to be ECSTATIC about leaving my town, but now I would do anything to relive my life just so that I can spend more time with my family. Yes, it's time for me to grow up and to learn how to deal with the real world, but there's never been a day in my life (minus five or so days) that I have not been around my parents. I probably wouldn't mind traveling abroad for a year if I would ever have to, but the thought of never living with my parents again just scares the crap out of me. </p>
<p>The good thing is that I will be living with my brother for the next four years (he happens to live in the same city where I will be attending college), and that my parents will be visiting every single weekend. So yes, I do have temporary support for the next few years. No, I will not be isolated from my family. But what then? </p>
<p>Has anyone here ever experienced the same worries? If so, what helped you to cope/succeed?</p>
<p>I guarantee you that after a week at your college all that angst will go away and you won’t miss your parents as much as you do now. lol</p>
<p>I hated my high school and was happy to get out. (I’m still hoping it burns down.) But like you, I started to worry about all those things about a week before I left. When my parents finally left on move-in day it really hit me and I started to miss them. I’m an only child too so I know they were sad. But there was so much to do on campus and I was making so many friends, that I didn’t have time to miss them. They’re only a phone call away too and hearing their voice will put you at ease if you need it.</p>
<p>Now we’re all just used to me not being home. It’s good to be independent and on your own. You learn so much about yourself. As far as academics, first semester is always the hardest. If you keep focus and survive that, you’ll be alright for your 4 years.</p>
<p>it is probably just a little anxiety. you are moving on to the next stage in your life.(spreading your wings) feeling overwhelmed /worried etc is normal. if you do not adjust once you get to school and start classes, feel no shame in approaching the mental health counseling department at your school.</p>
<p>Thanks for the advice and comfort guys! My parents are telling me that I freak out way too much over this. Hopefully it will all work out in the end. I will definitely try to find someone to talk to if I ever end up feeling overwhelmed. The thing is that I am making a huge jump from a small-town school to a huge and “extremely” competitive public university, so I hope that I will be able to handle all of that while finding the time to enjoy myself. :/</p>
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<p>Berkeley or Los Angeles ? I already know its one of the two. </p>
<p>You will be living with your brother. So, I don’t see any problems but you will be missing out on college experience.</p>
<p>I’m going to Berkeley.</p>