<p>No school is going to be perfect in every category, and I'd say that the dorms at both Princeton and Yale, for the most part, are very nice. Some are, of course, better than others, but with some effort you can make your dorm room comfortable, regardless of its size or location on campus.</p>
<p>As far as eating clubs go, I believe they're largely misunderstood. I would suggest finding a current student to talk to (here, or elsewhere), if that's one of your primary concerns. And if you have, and it's still a concern, then maybe you'll feel more comfortable at Yale -- and that's fine.</p>
<p>In terms of academics, it's really a pointless debate. You're going to get an incredible education at either institution. It seems to me that Princeton places more emphasis on Undergraduates, seeing as most of the professors come to Princeton specifically for the purpose of teaching Undergraduates, but I'm sure that's arguable (or, at least, I'm sure some would argue it). As it relates to grade deflation, to reiterate what others have said, it doesn't affect GPAs all that much, and any Graduate school that you plan on applying to will be fully aware of Princeton's policies.</p>
<p>In terms of location, I do believe that Princeton has the edge -- but that's my personal opinion. Although New Haven isn't exactly a, well... haven, safety shouldn't be too big of a worry. Most, if not all, of the students at Yale feel perfectly safe, and for good reason. Personally, I love the town of Princeton, and I also love that NYC and Philly are only short (and inexpensive) train rides away, but New Haven's, of course, a little bigger itself, and not terribly far from NYC or Boston.</p>
<p>All in all, choose where you're going to feel most comfortable right now. You can't make a "wrong" decision, because I'm positive that you'll be happy at either institution. Good luck!</p>