stargirl3: I am always with you. I think I can understand very well why some of the kids are here, enjoy being here. For them, cc is where they can ask questions, learn about the admission process, get advice when needed. Without cc, they don’t know where to turn to or seek advice. Cc helped them.
CC made me from very sad and kind of depressed to overly happy 
That could also mean that frequent posters (ie the unconnected) don’t get in because they’re not familiar with the prep school world.
@stargirl3 Exactly! And many of them do not have parents helping them with the process, or even if there parents are willing to help they don’t have the right information to be helpful
My hope is that the OP recognizes that what they wrote was insulting/uncomfortable to many good people here on CC and they will learn from this experience.
I think the OP’s message has some valid points, although the timing of the post could have made the message seem more callous than intended. I do think many of us parents would rather our own kids, whether applying to BS or heading off to college, not spend excessive time on this or any other internet forum. Perhaps waiting awhile after March 11th and allowing folks to come to terms with their disappointment and then posting, the message might have been better received. I certainly don’t think it was meant maliciously.
One thing that has made the CC Prep School Forum useful over the years I have followed it is the ability to hear diverse opinions. Whether its the OPs comments, “tough love” and good advice from @sevendad, or opinions expressed by those who might disagree with him and others, let’s not squelch free discussion on this forum. A forum of ‘group think’ wouldn’t be too helpful or interesting. Overall, I find the postings helpful and courteous. If you’ve read other message boards, you know how truly ugly the internet can be. This forum serves as a great resource, both for parents and for those students whose parents may be less involved.
@classicalmama, OP is full pay, as shown on decision spreadsheet. I do agree that the FA request has kept some great kids out of BS. I saw it this year here in my area.
I don’t disagree with the need for diverse opinions on CC. My concern has more to do with the need for basic empathy and good manners, which we all need to be reminded of occasionally, especially on line. It just isn’t cool in this Mama’s realm of terror…that is her family…for a “winner” to give unsolicited advice to (or aim criticism at) a “loser:” especially immediately after the game has been played. And the fact that the OP probably didn’t intend to be rude is exactly why it needs to be brought up. But now I’m just exhibiting my own bad manners (as son number 2 loves to point out), which is my compulsive need to have the last word!