<p>This year I transferred to a different college. I'm living on campus, and I was very excited to start everything from scratch. I sort of met a lot of people at first, but started hanging out mostly with this one group. I was very happy and spent all my time with them and didn't get to know anyone else that well. As time passed, I got to know my friends better, and realized that we are very different and want different things from our college experience and from life. I don't mind being with them every now and then, but these are not the people I want to be my closest friends. Unfortunately, I realized this too late - it seems like everyone has already settled into their groups. I talk to some people in class, but it doesn't go further than conversations in class or walking from class. Also, as a transfer I'm taking upper division classes, and most of the people live off campus as dorms are very expensive. I have a lot to study and don't have that much time to join many clubs or go to the gym, things like that. This situation with friends is making me feel constantly angry and stressed out. I'm not an outgoing person by nature either, so it's been kind of hard to do something about it. Sorry for the long ramble, but I'd appreciate advice on getting to know people better. How can you meet new people when it seems like everyone already has their groups ?</p>
<p>I am also having a problem with friends. In the group that I hung out with most, I had a big argument with one of the people, and now I am left with no friends in college anymore. Anybody got advice for us?</p>
<p>I was a transfer student, too, and I made my friends second semester of my first year. They became best friends by first semester of my second year, and I have made a bunch of new friends this year, too. You really need to get over the idea that it’s too late because people arent frantically trying to get to know people anymore. You realize people who aren’t in college and don’t have a fresh start every 15 or however many weeks still manage to make friends, right? It isn’t as though there is some magical window of friendship that closes after the first few weeks. You just have to try a little harder to be outgoing and meet people.</p>
<p>@OP</p>
<p>Wow, you’re lucky to have found any friends at all–based on many posts in this forum, I am quite convinced that at least 50% of people in college have no friends to speak of whatsoever.</p>