<p>alright so let me spill my story here I was not a very good student in High School and as a result I didn't have very many options in terms of schools. I ended up at Bowling Green State University in Ohio, and after about two months there I could tell that it was not the place for me. To make a long story short, I pretty much focused all my efforts on getting good grades in order to transfer to my top choice, which I ended up getting into. However, the problem is that my new school (University of Maryland), has a housing shortage, so I don't live in a dorm, but rather, in a fraternity house that is just off campus. It is sort of hard to make friends in this situation, because most of the brothers already have their groups of friends, and while they are friendly to me, I can't really see myself being friends with them. So after I realized this, I looked at the other fraternities on campus. I found one that I really like alot, so I hung out with them, went to all their rush events and parties and the such, and had a really fun time and felt like I fit right in. So problem solved, right? Well, unfortunately, I didn't get the bid. This is bad for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I had spent so much time with the rush events that I havent had any time to meet any other people outside of the fraternity, and as a result, pretty much the only people I know here are those who I have met through the fraternity. And secondly, I figured if I had gotten in, it would have solved the housing problem (I am number 687 on the wait list for on campus housing, so i figure that i am not getting it anytime soon) So now, I have to start again from square one, and im not even sure where to go to start meeting people. People will say the usual go to clubs and try to meet people in classes and such, but the problem I have found with that is you only see those people 2-3 times a week, so it is tough to foster a relationship with them. So anyways, that is the end of my rant, so if anyone has some suggestions, please let me know</p>
<p>As for these people you only see 2-3 times a week that you really get along with.. try to keep in touch with them through Facebook & cell phone... also maybe you can stay in touch with some of the brothers you really got along with.
It may take some time before you make really close friends.. but keep trying.</p>
<p>I'm in almost the same situation as you, dude. Except I go to CC and I'll have a helluva lot harder time with making social connections with people because so many people just come to class and leave right after.</p>
<p>I'm not so great at giving advice, but thinking about recent friendships I've made with people... either one of us made an attempt to contact each other... and now it's so EASY with facebook! Just add them and leave a comment asking to go for lunch one day or something.... if they are in your class, ask them for help (even if you don't need it or they can't help you because you know more about the subject... haha)... bring up going to parties and stuff.</p>
<p>It's a lot easier for you because even though you're off campus, there's about a million kids and happenings at the campus (unlike a CC!). </p>
<p>Try to make friends with the people you live with. That's the easiest part, I think. But what do I know?</p>
<p>PS. thanks for the heads up at UMD. I was looking to transfer there after my two years, but I MUST live on campus, wherever I get into.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>it's always hard to make friends at such a big school like UMD.</p>
<p>i've been to MANY colleges and i will share my wisdom with you:</p>
<p>it is hard to get close to a lot of people at once for sure. the trick is to get REALLY close to just ONE person. it's a lot easier that way. be friendly, ask to hang out, but don't act too desperate if you know what i mean. anyway, you will end up meeting that one person's friends also and hopefully you will become a part of their social group or clique.</p>
<p>it all takes time man. just be patient and friendly.</p>
<p>it's always hard to make friends at such a big school like UMD.</p>
<p>i've been to MANY colleges and i will share my wisdom with you:</p>
<p>it is hard to get close to a lot of people at once for sure. the trick is to get REALLY close to just ONE person. it's a lot easier that way. be friendly, ask to hang out, but don't act too desperate if you know what i mean. anyway, you will end up meeting that one person's friends also and hopefully you will become a part of their social group or clique.</p>
<p>it all takes time man. just be patient and friendly.</p>