Protocol for a M10 get together -- Need advice

I have two good friends whose kids are applying for BS this year and they don’t know each other. They and their kids want to meet and support each other through this big transition. I’d love to introduced them and proposed a post M10 get-together.

Both have applied at Mercersburg as their first choice, but for different grades. What if one gets in and the other doesn’t? Would that be too awkward? Or should I wait until April when everyone has come to terms with whatever school they are going to? It would be fabulous if they both got in, then they can really help each other and the party can start M11!!!

I’ve had CC friends who’ve gotten in while I haven’t. It’s hard at first, but I came to terms with it pretty quickly. I would suggest getting them together now, because regardless of the outcome, it’s nice to have a friend who’s going through this.

I would not do any planning until after M10. It could be excruciatingly bad for one or the other. Everyone needs to process wait list or rejection differently. If they both get in, you can arrange a party immediately!

Yeah I have a feeling it would be weird when some of our friends here on CC get accepted while you get rejected. I don’t really know how I would deal with it, vice versa as well.

Maybe you could have a “surprise” party only to be activated with the right conditions (i.e. everyone gets in).

ah, I think this is kind of a strange question, if one gets in and the other doesn’t why on earth would the rejected one want to meet the one who gets in?? If they both get in fantastic! if not forget it

If only we could see into the future…

Thanks for all the reply kids! Important to know how you all feel. I am actually going to get the mothers together after M10 because they do want to exchange information about schools. The kids will meet only after they decide and can bond over the whole prep experience. There are very few applicants from our country.

The girl basically was given a verbal acceptance at a third-tier boarding school in Vermont. I was worried whether she would be disappointed if it was the only school she got into. But SHE LOVED IT. She said, “Oh it was everything she had dreamt American boarding school would be like – small, cozy, with friendly teachers, American and international kids, lots of participation in activities!” Her only complaint was that the dorms smelled like wet boots!

It’s not an academic powerhouse but… her parents actually feel she would adjust better here, be better taken care of than at a competitive school. They do worry about the poor airport access… Mercers facilities, they thought were like a college or Hollywood movie set and she would be in a dream if she got in. It’s bigger, less cozy but still, “There is just so much at this school.”

And you know what? The boy would feel exactly the same way. He is really excited about starting in September and would enjoy himself anywhere. He has applied to several third tier schools that he should be accepted into, so in the worst case, the girl gets into Mercers and he doesn’t, he would at least enjoy the process of choosing one of the schools. He will go on a school tour from March 30th and decide on one. That’s when he will really get excited.

I am so proud of these kids and their attitude. So many schools besides the “famous ones” are amazing!
Good luck to you all in finding the school that fits!