<p>It totally depends on the kid. I have one at Berkeley. He will graduate on time with a double major and has only had a couple of problems getting preferred classes (preferred due to a preference for a teacher or a certain time/day, etc...). Some of his classes have been huge and other small. This has suited him well. The educational experience is like trying to drink from a fire hydrant... intense and the variety is amazing, even if the quality of teaching varies. Some of his professors are quite famous. The extracurricular activities are vast and provide a lot of opportunity for unexpected exploring of the self. He entered college as a kid who never watched a single sport. But he just returned from six days in the Virgin Islands, a free trip provided by Cal Women's basketball so three games could be broadcast over the campus radio station. He was one of two student announcers. But, in terms of advising, he has been mostly on his own, via the campus websites. It's a do-it-yourself kind of atmosphere, and the kid has to be comfortable figuring tricky situations out on his own (including access to health care, mental health, financial concerns, etc...). The kid has been burglarized three times in three different living situations; he knows how to file a police report. There is no one at the school who is looking out for him, though there is help if he can manage to find it. He has learned the hard way (having tried to live in isolation for a time) the value of finding and forming a community. There are many things he has learned out of the class in this "real world" that he will not have to learn post-graduation.</p>
<p>My other kid is a freshman at a small private liberal arts university (less than 4,000 students) in a big city. Her community is basically provided to her, and her new friends number in the dozens after one quarter because the students at her college are very similar to her in values and interests. She called tonight absolutely in love with her academic guidance advisor who she met with today. Together they mapped out all four years of potential classes for her major and minor. She said she went into the meeting, in spite having spent hours on the internet researching her major requirements, feeling lost and uncertain and anxious, and she came out of it with not only a plan but a new friend (the woman was a recent graduate of the university who had lived on her floor in the same dorm... "we had a little bonding moment, Mom...."). She said the advisor made her feel competent and confident by the end of the meeting, and I could hear that in her voice. As she was gushing on the phone this evening over her incredible next quarter schedule, I was sending a million enthusiastic and silent thank yous to the unknown woman who will be her advisor for the next four years. I'm also grateful for the availability of her professors, one in particular who has been helping her with writing every other week during office hours... no TA's for this kid, and no Nobel Laureates either, just close relationships and a ton of respect for her teachers. </p>
<p>The two universities could not be more opposite (in size, politics, student body composition, they are at the extreme edges of the spectrum of colleges). But neither could my two kids be any more different. The price tags between the two for full tuition/room/board/travel home/books differ by about $10,000 (minus the $6,000 merit scholarship the private gave D and it's only $4,000 difference, thank goodness). </p>
<p>There is a place for every type of student. You have to really know your kid well to send them to the extreme edge of the spectrum with any confidence at all. Otherwise, it might be best to find a happy middle, whether public or private. Besides, in this economy, who knows which schools will have it worse.</p>