Every program is going to have someone at the margins whose circumstances are significantly better than someone who doesn’t qualify. There are people in my state whose income is just over the cap for WIC and other food-assistance programs (just ask anyone who runs a food pantry) but who are needier than those who qualify- they’ve got a medical situation or a disabled child-- but the “charts” say they earn too much. There are kids who get generous need based aid at college- dad’s a minister, mom’s a social worker, but there is family money, status, and social capital dating back to the Mayflower which renders the idea of these kids needing a “helping hand” absurd. On paper- yes, their income and assets qualify. But sell the Turner or Picasso hanging in the dining room (handed down from great-grandpa), or the Chippendale desk in the hallway (where great, great grandpa signed the contracts which got the family out of cotton and into coal) and boom- millions more in the bank.
Are you going to spend your life aggravated that some people have more than you? Or “get” more?
Not a fun way to live, and certainly doesn’t help your kid become the best that she can be.