Hello all - I wanted to come back and update this since you were very helpful and comforting at the time.
The kid did not match, and was not accepted to any of those schools during the RD round either. She also did not apply to any public schools, which I don’t really understand - maybe she really just thought she was going to an Ivy. At any rate, she was accepted to two perfectly fine but lower tier schools and my understanding is that she is very unhappy. I don’t wish her ill but maybe there is a bit of karma in all this.
My own daughter went through RD and is headed for an amazing school and our financial aid package was very good. I am getting on my feet financially - have been living with my sister and just got an apartment for my two kids and myself. My daughter is ecstatic and I am happy for her. Thanks for all of your support. CC is not always a kind place these days but most of you were supportive and I appreciate that.