Question about roommate issue

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<p>Hi,</p>

<p>I have been living with my current roommate since September. We havn't had any real issues. We talked a little in the beginning, but we don't talk anymore.</p>

<p>Anyways, that isn't a problem for me. I have friends, just as he does. The problem for me is related to mutual respect.</p>

<p>Recently, last week, my roommate wanted to watch a TV show when I was trying to sleep. This never occured before. I asked him to turn it down after about 5 minutes, he turned it down probably 3 notches (lines). I then 5 minutes later of trying to ignore it, ask him to either put it on subtitles or something. This was at 10:25pm. He says, it was only going to 11:00pm, like that was ok. I had a test tomorrow, I also have to wake up at 6:30-6:45am (which I do every day). He did turn it off, but clearly didn't like it and left the room.</p>

<p>That is probably what set all this crap off. Last night, he came into the room at around 11pm and studied there until 12:15am. He does use a lamp on his desk, but he isn't quiet about things. </p>

<p>Anyways, long story short, I need my sleep. I was cool about him studying in here at earlier times, but not at these times. Would you all view it as me being unflexible if I asked him to go study in the study room, which is right next door (I'm mean RIGHT next door) to our room? That is if he needs to be studying for longer than 30minutes after 11pm? </p>

<p>I am flexible with him, I am rarely in my room, except for night time to sleep. I also let him turn it down to 65F at night (it goes back up to 74F in daytime, unless he show up when I'm not there, so it goes down to 70F then).</p>

<p>If it occurs again tonight, I'm going to talk about it the next day and ask him the above. Again, am I being inflexible about this? Please only people who actually had roommates in college respond, not trying to be rude, just want people with experience with college roommates.</p>

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<p>I feel bad for you roomate that you go to sleep so early.</p>

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<p>Sounds to me like you're being pretty unflexible. It's college, and in a dorm/roommate environment, not everything is going to be perfect and to your liking.</p>

<p>I for one, go to bed relatively early if I have to wake up in the morning early (ie weekdays) and my roommate doesn't. Sometimes he watches TV, or he leaves music on when he goes to sleep (not loud, but enough to distract me and make it harder for me to sleep... it's on timer, so it turns off after like 20 mins).
If you find it to be too cold at night, wear something warmer. Unless your roommate's being extremely loud or something, I don't think he's doing anything wrong.</p>

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<p>buy a set of earphones for him or earplugs for you. I mean most of you own ipods with earphones, and most tvs have speaker jacks..sooo offer to buy (couple bucks) some earphones and let the guy go deaf in peace and quiet.</p>

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<p>Same can be said for his circumstance as well. Not everything is going to be perfect.....................</p>

<p>The study room is right next door, the next room over. Why is that a big deal?</p>

<p>Goldshadow, sorry to say, but your extremely passive.</p>

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<p>No, we both do a few things that bother each other. We've talked about it and compromised. Otherwise it'd be much worse.</p>

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<p>It is probably pretty annoying for him for you to go to bed at 11 PM, since most classes probably don't start until 8. I know I'm in HS and am never done studying by 11. Why do you have to get up so early? Are you an athlete? </p>

<p>It seems like you're a really light sleeper. I don't understand how somebody could be /studying/ so loud that you couldn't get to sleep? I agree he probably could have used the study room, but again, it seems like such a small issue. </p>

<p>Why should he always accomodate you?</p>

<p>I would work on a compromise. If you can't stand the sound of typing or the TV, put in some earplugs. If the bright lights of his laptop annoy you, get one of those eye mask things. Then if you can still hear the TV significantly (and no, it won't be DEAD silent...), you can ask if he wouldn't mind using headphones. </p>

<p>I think that your roommate is probably already making sacrifices to be completely silent by 11 or 11:30. So now it's your turn.</p>

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<p>Your in HS is the key word, no offense. I was looking to hear from people who have actually had roommates from college. The others seem to have, and they have there opinions which are fine. </p>

<p>I'm not asking him to go to sleep when I go to sleep. I'm was contemptlating the big issue of someone going to a study room. I fail to understand the big deal to that, but maybe that is just me. Again, same question can be asked the other way around. Why should I accomodate him?</p>

<p>I am planning on letting him do it, unless it gets out of hand. Its not the studying that bugs me, its the noise being made and the hours of when its done. Going past 12am is late IMO, no matter what time you get up on a school night. I'll work it out to see what happens.</p>

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<p>Agreed with everyone here. You are actually the one who isn't compromising or being accommodating. You were in bed by 10:30, which seems like a normal occurrence...he turned down the TV when you asked. "Only 3 lines". Who cares...he turned it down. </p>

<p>If it was after midnight, I could understand...but 10:30? Come on man...some of the best shows are on that late.</p>

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<p>You have to realize that you go to bed extremely early compared with everyone else in the school...I lived with a girl once who had to get up at 5:30 am every morning for sports practice and she didn't even go to sleep until 11pm. Now, I think it's reasonable for you to request that your roommate keep relatively quiet after 11pm or so so that you can go to sleep, but I don't think it's reasonable to demand that he can't watch tv at 10pm or be studying in the room after you go to sleep. If he's purposely being loud and slamming drawers, dropping books, etc., then he's just being rude and childish, but if he's just making incidental noises and you're being bothered by them, get some earplugs. That's what I always had to do when I was at home during high school because my parents' blaring tv would have kept me awake otherwise. He lives there too and you can't just make him bend over backwards to accommodate your schedule, or kick him out to the study room because you assume since you wouldn't mind studying there, he wouldn't mind either (some people do prefer to study in their rooms, you know).</p>

<p>I would also like to point out that, while I made a point of being quiet after my roommate went to sleep, she appeared to make no effort in being quiet when she got up, so I was treated to an hour's worth of thumping footsteps and kitchen cabinets slamming early every morning. I would hope that if you expect your roommate to be quiet for you when you go to sleep early, you are also being quiet for him when you get up early and he is undoubtedly still asleep.</p>

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<p>I was a roommate last year that was up at all hours trying to study to keep my head above water. The fact that your roommate needs to study in your room rather than the study room is understandable to me. The study room in our hall was right across the hall, but it drove me crazy because there were no chairs and people would occasionally have sex in it. I did the best I could to accomodate my roommate, but when she wanted to go to bed at 11 and I had been studying for six hours and still had no end in sight there was no way I was going to go to the study room or the library when the best place to work was in my room. I tried to be quiet and not disturb her, but she constantly complained about the light, even though it was just a little desk lamp. She finally ended up moving into her boyfriend's apartment, which made her demands someone else's problem.
I realize you want to sleep, but it's not always easy to accomodate your roommate even if you have the best of intentions. I would say that your roommate should be willing to use earphones while watching TV or listening to music, but if he's studying then he should be the one who has priority, especially at 10:30.</p>

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<p>I'm going to go with the majority. 10:30 is very early for people to go to bed in college, and I have a hard time thinking that he is thrilled with the situation. I'd susgest that you do in fact get some earplugs.</p>

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<p>what a terrible advises u people make!! i say, u beat this guy up to a pulp. </p>

<p>u see, i lead really comfortable life, beacuse whenever someone distract me, i smack them. if they continue, i spank him/her. if they still continue, i challenge them to a duel: yugioh or magic. of course, i win all these duels and strip these fools of all these money. if someone bothers me in my sleep, i usually go out and start runninginto trees until i faint.</p>

<p>all the people who have known me for years always bow to me and begs me to teach them how to be sexy, and live comfortably in life. i tell them, always think urself to be a child of a rabbit. we are all born from rabbits, lemmings, hamsters.</p>

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Your in HS is the key word, no offense. I was looking to hear from people who have actually had roommates from college.

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<p>I've had roommates before and also know about common courtesy. My opinions seem really similiar to everyone else's. If you're going to dismiss them just because I'm not "in college", well, that is kinda childish of you.</p>

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<p>"I've had roommates before and also know about common courtesy. My opinions seem really similiar to everyone else's. If you're going to dismiss them just because I'm not "in college", well, that is kinda childish of you."</p>

<p>Not really. Same can be said about people who "volunteer" who tell you about work (although that doesn't happen at this age, I've heard it from younger people). Honestly, though, don't worry about it.</p>

<p>Im not talking about someone studying at 10:30pm, I'm talking about someone who studys from 11pm-12:xxam. Also, someone who recently decided slamming things is ok. </p>

<p>I was curtious to him in the morning. turning off the light when I left the room to take a shower, etc.. Now, after whatever he decided to do this week, I don't honestly give a ****. I show him the same curtiousy he gives me at night.</p>

<p>I will figure things out I guess.</p>

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<p>Oh don't be that guy Comanch.</p>

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<p>I can sympathize with you about the noise, but having issues with light seems to be stepping over the line. A small lamp in a dark room won't be too distracting unless you're a very light sleeper.</p>

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<p>Sounds like at least so far (up to the last few days), he's been very accommodating. I second the earplug idea. Maybe make a compromise like no TV after X:XX, but studying is fine (as long as he keeps it down)? I think sauronvoldemort's suggestion is more inventive, however.</p>

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<p>Ok, I was having a similar problem with my roomate...
the problem was, I would go to bed at 10am while he was still watching tv at a normal volume, which bothered me a lot. One day, I felt offended because I was lying down and trying to listen to a podcast on my Ipod in bed and my roomate was wathing tv as always. So, I cranked my ipod really high so that the audio was loud enough to be audible for him from 15 feet away( It was not inside my ear,of course--i don't want go death). When he turned off the tv to sleep, he immediately remarked that the volume on my thing was too high. I was like, wth? This guys wants complete silence when he is going to bed, but doesn't have any consideration for my bedtime?</p>

<p>So, we agreed that there wouldn't be any noise after 11 on weekends. When it comes to college, you have to compromise on your bed time, man. If I could I would sleep at 9pm, but you have cut your roomate some slack since he has the same rights that you do. It seems like you have an upper hand on the issue, though, and I understand your point that your roomate isn't making any sacrifices by not going to bed early. However, the light thing is just too much. Maybe you should buy a sleep mask or something.</p>

<p>Returning to my roomate, I despise him. Everytime I walk into the room, that ass****is wathing tv and listening to music. Even when I am in the room alone studying, he will come in and turn the tv or the radio on to some idiotic channel. I don't say anyhting because I don't want to cause any hostility. Honestly, I wish I were big enough to fight him like one poster suggested, but the guy is like 6'4" and I am pretty short. Everyday, I think to my self, "only three more months, only three more months..."</p>

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Are you serious? No noise after 11 would be bad enough on a weekday. On weekends? You've seriously got to be kidding me. I feel real bad for your roommate.</p>