<p>Based on what you said above, you’d be very ill-suited to the fraternity culture
(it’s very much more into drinking/hook ups than sober game playing and long-term relationships).
You may like BYU though since it matches what you want socially and the academic level isn’t bad at all. The parties are low key
and typically there’s no drinking and most people are there for real relationships.
Further choices:
Look for a close-knit community with a good orientation program, a “friendly”/down-to-earth college, a college with specific programs you’re interested in and which house
the students together or a college with living-learning communities. All these would
help you make friends without resorting to fraternities or a drinking culture.
Check out colleges that have your favorite activities so that you can make friends who are in the same club.
Beside BYU, University of Utah, Westminster (UT), or Wheaton (IL) if you’re Christian or St Olaf (MN) if you don’t mind the cold. They’re all pretty dry, which doesn’t mean there’s no partying, just that there’s more to groups than partying.</p>