<p>If you don’t want to join one don’t join one but the various chapters at each campus can be quite different so it’s foolish to make a blanket statement about whether or not you would find a chapter that was a match for you. Several of my brothers didn’t drink much if at all and many of them were not into casual sex.</p>
<p>You’ll have to visit the campuses/talk to students to see if Greek life dominates the campus or not but even at schools where it does there could still easily be a chapter that suits you. You’ll never know unless you look.</p>
<p>The only statement of yours that would make me doubt you and Greek life is that you don’t want to live in a large group. That’s one of the best parts in my opinion. Also while you can always quit a fraternity, it’s expected that you never will so your fear of being stuck could be a cause for concern.</p>