<p>I have a little nagging thing that has been bothering me. I normally hate people who look down upon others, but then I realized I am one of those people.</p>
<p>Today my sister told me a story about how in her introductory spanish class at college that a new woman walked in and was new to the class and had never learned spanish. She was really old, like 70. The teacher told her to say, yo soy, i am, and then your name. She said yo soy, i am, Ruth.</p>
<p>When my sister told my other sister that story, she laughed. When she told me that story, I didn't laugh. I thought that woman must have been really stupid. How could you not know that you shouldn't place an english phrase in front of a spanish one when speaking spanish? My other sister said, "WHAT?, so, what do you mean," you know? Then she pointed to my grandmother who speaks absolutely no english and said do you think she would know?</p>
<p>Anyway, I just realized how unconsciously arrogant I am. Am I wrong for thinking that?</p>
<p>I guess I’d kind of prefer “justified” arrogance over overly done false humility, but I suppose that I’d really not wish to settle for either.</p>
<p>Let’s see, arrogance being defined as “Marked by or arising from a feeling or assumption of one’s superiority toward others,” I suppose that if you felt that her, erm, lack of linguistic ability made you superior to her (although really, a ~70 year old, lol? the leap to her poor intelligence seemed a tad premature, too), then indeed you were arrogant…</p>
<p>Well… I wouldn’t say that you were wrong, per se, to think that she should just KNOW to not say the English in there. I mean, why would anybody say an English phrase in the middle of speaking a foreign language? But I don’t think you should look down on the woman for what happened - she probably just slipped up, because the teacher did tell her to say “yo soy, i am, and then [her] name,” which is what she did.</p>
<p>edit - Btw, I am probably arrogant as well, so you’re not alone :]</p>
<p>Lots of people, no, everyone has arrogance…I’m one of them.</p>
<p>But only in certain cases (like when annoying girls in my french class ask to copy my classwork, and I say “**** you’re stupid as hell if you can’t get this right”, but only after the 2nd time), I definitely wouldn’t be arrogant to a 70 yr old lady who sux at spanish (more like I wouldn’t care).</p>
<p>yeah, I realized I am pretty much a ******bag. It gets deeply psychological though. It’s like this situation could be applied to anyone, not just this woman. Other races, other religions, and groups of people… I must be so high and mighty I can’t even see it.</p>
<p>It takes a very wise man to realize all men are truly worthy. Most never do.</p>
<p>For most people, looking down upon certain groups of people is instinct. Instincts can be overcome, but it takes effort. You should pat yourself on the back for recognizing this tendency in yourself because now you can try to improve and make yourself a nicer person :)</p>
<p>(And I say this as someone who accidentally looks down on people all the time.)</p>
<p>I don’t think it was necessarily “right” to think that. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses in different areas. Some people don’t get things as well as you do. Some people have a history that you don’t understand, and yet we all find room to judge them for not being as good or smart.</p>
<p>I think arrogance is NEVER justified. Ever. I think confidence is justified, but you should never use it against other people. I think arrogance is severely unattractive and horrible. Who puts some people higher on the list to judge others as “lesser”? </p>
<p>Everyone has abilities, and we should respect that this happens. But we should not judge people for not understanding things as well, for not getting things as fast, for not working as hard, etc. Everyone has their own circumstances and history, so we should all just try to help each other succeed and be kind, rather than degrade and look down upon others.</p>
<p>I think that everyone wants to feel superior to someone else in some way or another. (No one likes watching competitions in which one of the groups is apathetic toward the outcome) As long as the desire to feel superior is not exploited and used to put others down, I do not see very much wrong with it. Keep it in check and you should be fine.</p>
<p>Although, teenagers usually flaunt their superiorness. There should be healthy competition in high school (and life) to try to better ourselves and others, but a lot of people use it as justification to say, “I’m better than you.” Which is just mean. </p>
<p>I think everyone one wants to feel confident in their own abilities. A lot of people find the easy way to do this is find faults in other people. Sure, it’s the easiest, but not the nicest/best way. Do things for yourself and be confident in your abilities, and use that to help others and to BOOST others. Not to justify you being better.</p>
<p>I used to be arrogant until I realized that it ****ed me off when people around me were arrogant. So I realized how much of I dick I must’ve seemed for so long. I’m a lot more modest now :)</p>
<p>Arrogant people are just obnoxious. I’m in debate, and sooo many people (mostly guys, lol) are arrogant. Very arrogant. (Though I have found that plenty of people will talk like they’re so sure of themselves, but, for some reason or another, I don’t get annoyed because I don’t believe they believe themselves. Does that make sense? Like, in debate, when someone goes, “Oh, I’ve gone 3-0 so far”–which means they’ve won everything–they’re still totally unsure of whether they’ll be called up for awards.) </p>
<p>I mean, I’ll judge certain aspects of people, but not people as a whole. It’s fine to have opinions, but I try not to be an ass.</p>