http://www.thepeelonline.com/anonymous-pitzer-student-raped-at-cmc/
Just ugly.
My heart breaks for her. It’s my worst fear for my daughter. How awful that she feels she has no one to talk to.
Yeah, the roommate did not come out looking good, either. My kid say her rule is just to avoid the CMC “bros” completely. There has been a groundswell of support on campus – I kind of assume the Pitzerites know who she is. If the CMCers know who it was on their side, they aren’t saying.
Every school. Every place. Always. Men have got to stop raping. It’s overwhelming.
How is the record of the local police department and district attorney at investigating and prosecuting rape-by-intoxication cases?
I wish victims would head straight to the police…so much more could have been done to help her immediately.
That has been my message to my daughters.
If you read Krakauer’s Missoula, you realize that going to the police often isn’t much better, unfortunately.
There is still such a stigma and double standard in our society about rape/sexual assaults that it is very common for women, especially young women, to not report it - to push it away or try to rationalize it. There are no other crimes I can think of where the victim faces so much negative scrutiny, victim blaming, and “he said, she said” doubting.
For every case that gets reported there are many, many others that just don’t. I respect every victim that comes forward because I think each one helps chip away at that stigma that is still rampant and encourages more victims to speak up.
Also, if a rape or sexual assault is not reported to the police, there is a 0% chance that the suspect will be arrested or prosecuted. Which allows criminals to continue to get away with their crimes.
While I absolutely encourage everyone to report their assaults and/or rapes, as someone who has been in that position, I also absolutely understand why someone wouldn’t. Often, it is a re-victimization and the prosecution of rapes is absolutely abysmal. All too quickly and often, the victim/survivor is the one on trial and being grilled by cops.
@intparent Agree 100%. My child just called home upset to say that one of her good friends just had her rape accusation tossed out by the Title IX Coordinator. When I asked why the young woman did not initially go to the police, my daughter said that the Title IX coordinator had discouraged this, saying it would take years etc.
I’ve told my daughter to always go to the police first and make a formal complaint. The police are their to investigate crimes. Universities have other priorities. I would no more trust a university administrator to investigate a crime than to diagnose an illness.
At some large colleges, campus security is literally part of the local police department. Not my kids’ colleges, so we talked (and I have reminded them) to go to the actual police in addition to campus security. Colleges, like most institutions, have an interest in hushing these situations up.
Some colleges punish women when they report rape. Some discourage students to report.
http://www.cnn.com/2016/04/29/health/brigham-young-university-rape/
I wonder if there were witnesses to this (the drugging or the bringing up a drugged up girl to the bedroom). We need to teach our kids to be more proactive in watching out for each other. I think the bad guys get away with this because the good guys look the other way. I would hope my son, should he ever be a witness to something like this, would react as if that girl was his sister. Just so sad to see this.
My heart breaks for this poor girl. I hope she has some support through this process.
How sad for her and how sad that drug and alcohol enabled sexual assault is so prevalent everywhere.
With the recent push to ensure that sexual assault policies at colleges and universities are Title IX compliant, more an and more reports of systemic sexual abuse and unresponsive administrations keep popping up. Some students are beginning to fight back and are demanding more than bureaucratic platitudes on this issue. There has been very heated, recent debate on the FB pages for Kenyon and St. Olaf on precisely this issue.
I have told my Ds if anything ever happens to like this go directly to the emergency room or clinic. Explain what has happened and tell them you wish to be examined and be given a drug test for date rape drugs. Put the two together and you have DNA evidence and drug evidence. Then call the police while you are at the clinic. You are not dealing with “boys” you’re dealing with criminals. If you can give names even better. You want to get as much evidence as you can while it is available. It sounds harsh, especially when someone has gone through such a traumatic experience, however, it will be much easier to move on if the perpetrators are convicted.
I really wish schools during their student orientations would tell or try to compel students what @lvvcsf just stated… that if they believe they have been a victim of a drugged sexual assault to IMMEDIATELY go to the clinic or ER for date rape drug test and rape dna kit… It breaks my heart that the victim thought it would be her word against theirs or that no one would believe her …
I can’t help but think if more of these cases were prosecuted- boys wouldn’t even try it knowing the date rape drug and DNA sample was easily identifiable and they would be prosecuted fully …
A woman filed a lawsuit against Carleton this week (recent graduate) over handling of two sexual assaults while she was on campus.
Isn’t Pitzer the women’s college in the consortium? One would think they’d have a better handle on supporting young women and as @runswimyoga mentioned, instill in them the hospital - police - campus reporting route. I’ve also had discussions with our daughter and her friends that you go the hospital and request a rape exam, then call city police. Campus security is the absolute last on the list.
I’m speechless @exlibris97. This is so frustrating. That poor woman.