<p>Jeez. Maybe you guys are over-thinking this? People make assumptions, and when their assumptions are naive/incorrect/insulting/ whatever, one may decide to spend some time correcting those impressions. Or not, depending.</p>
<p>I have 3 kids, one at Yale, one just graduated McGill, and one is about to matriculate at Oberlin. We live in a part of the country where most people have never heard of Oberlin or McGill (really), including many upper-middle-class doctor/lawyer types. (I’m not above a spot of over-broad generalizing myself. But I really have run into quite a few of these, and many of my daughter’s high-school teachers in an IB program know nothing about these schools.) </p>
<p>Assumptions people commonly make:</p>
<p>The one at Yale got in only because her father is a Yale alum.
The one going to Oberlin must have flunked some classes, or could have gone to Yale but decided not to for flip reasons, or must be totally defective in some way. Anybody going to a school with student pop smaller than ~30,000 and no football scene is probably dealing with serious emotional issues - or might be on Autism spectrum.
The one at McGill - must be too stupid to have gotten in to State Flagship. </p>
<p>There is just about no end to the assumptions people make about academic situations/decisions that are outside the mainstream (and from this part of the worlk, attending McGill or Oberlin is about as outside the mainstream as attending Yale.) </p>
<p>I say, just deal with it. If people ask where your kid is going, tell them the truth. If they clearly are making assumptions based on that answer, and your relationship with them is such that it matters to you, than spend the time to let them know more about your kid/the college application process/whatever.</p>
<p>It <em>IS</em> condescending to say “Connecticut”…it implies (to me) that you think Yale is such a stellar, other-worldly mark of excellence and achievement beyond the ken of normal folk that they’ll just be overwhelmed by envy, or awe, and you want to spare them that because you’re just such a sensitive person.</p>