@jym626 You win. I’m not concerned about him at all. My reason to post here is to humblebrag to total strangers. Now, that being settled to your liking, thank you for helpful bits of your posts. However, you don’t really have to reply to my thread if you think I’m wasting your time. I’ll survive.
@WorryHurry411. Such a reaction to one passing comment in one post, of the opinion that this sounds a bit like a humblebrag. Seems to have struck a nerve. You don’t get to decide who posts in thread and who doesn’t. That said, @lookingforward was spot on. Its the same thing over and over and OVER. The responses will not change, not matter how many times or ways you ask the same question. So, go be a good parent and help your kid learn that sometimes you may not get what you want, but you make the best of, and be thankful for what you have.
As for “his stats are better than at least 50% of accepted students,” did you look at Stanford’s freshman admit detail? (You may be looking only at matriculated.)
4.0 and better - 6% admitted. SAT M 800- 8% admitted. That’s reality. Princeton, Brown and a few others also show this level of info. Believe, it: it takes more than shining in one high school, to make the cut. It takes a whole lot more than aiming high to be admitted high.
I’ve read the statistics and I’m not arguing one should be admitted to all top schools just because he has perfect GPA & SAT & PSAT and good ECs. It would still dissapoint a student to achieve all that and still not being admitted to not even ONE of those schools, even with clear understanding of admission process and knowing that he can still get in decent schools and be successful if he keeps working hard. Life is unfair and we can emotionally equip our children to deal with it but we can’t take away their natural response to it.
If the quote in #38 is verbatim it’s going to be difficult to backpedal. Kids are smart. If we think our children are better than everyone else they probably know it. And if they embrace that opinion and let it drive expectations for what they “deserve”, college admissions can be a bumpy ride.
Nobody is better than others. We are talking about statistics.
A top statted student not being admitted to an Ivy is not “unfair” Some colleges are referred to here on CC as having grade deflation. As proof they site that they tried so hard to get an A and only got a B. Grades are awarded based on results not effort.
@austinmshauri my quote is a paraphrasing of the message, culled from 2 or so posts in this thread. But its essentially the same in multiple other threads by the OP. IIRC, the kid has been described as laid back, and, like many, many, MANY other kids who have been through this, they will likely be disappointed/sad if faced with rejection, but will brush themselves off, say “oh well”, and focus on the acceptances. Its often the parents who have the bigger difficulty with the rejection than the kids.
The adcomms from the top schools say repeatedly that they could fill their classes with vals/sals, 4.0 GPA kids and 36 ACT/2400 (or now 1600) SAT kids. Its NOT just about the grades and test scores. As for statistics, schools with single digit admission rates are going to be disappointing a LOT of very qualified kids.
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