I’m really lost. I spent three semesters at a school a couple hours away from home taking classes for civil engineering. In addition to the stress, anxiety, and pressure of the Covid situation and the resultant loneliness, isolation, etc., I also was in over my head on the academics required for civil engineering, and I also had a terrible roommate my third semester. Plus, I was falsely accused and reported of cheating, which the professor found to be a misunderstanding but still haunted me for a while and I’m uncertain if it remains on my disciplinary record. All in all, I truly felt that transferring to a school back home was my best option.
This spring semester I didn’t transfer but did take a couple classes at this school close to home and took a leave of absence from my previous school. A few weeks ago I sent a transfer application to this new school, and was accepted. However, I am truly regretting leaving my previous school and looking back I believe I made the wrong choice.
I think the feelings of anger and stress I had for the school should’ve been rather blamed on Covid and my choice of major. Even with those two factors, though, I recognize that my first semester there with a good roommate and with not too difficult classes, it was the happiest I had ever been in my life, quite possibly.
I really don’t know what to do, but I just wish I could restart my entire college experience without COVID and with a better idea of what I wanted to major in. I know that’s not possible, though, so I’m hoping someone can suggest to me my next best alternative approaches.
This school I previously attended had always been my dream school, and it was affordable, in a beautiful area, and despite the tough position we were placed in due to COVID I had friends there. I don’t want to have any regrets, and I’m afraid that my biggest regret in life so far is quitting and giving up on things I should’ve stuck with, and I’d hate to see this be yet another example of that, and a much worse one at that.
What actions that I’ve taken are irreversible? What actions do I make now? Should I take a few classes this semester at the new school, and then transfer back for the next spring semester, if I still regret my decisions? I’m so lost, please help me out.