<p>Today we sent in the first of our "No thanks, I'm choosing another school over you" letters. This was a school where D attended pre-college, made some great friends, loved the teachers, and had a great merit scholarship offer making the COA the lowest of all 3 she applied to. I know kids and parents feel bad when the kid is rejected, but why do D & I feel bad rejecting the school? We know we made the right choice in doing so, but it's still unsettling. I did not have any personal contact with anyone there, so it's not that. The next turndown will be the school whose ad rep came and talked to my daughters class (I was there and met her personally), gave her good merit aid, making the COA lower than #1 but was her #2 choice. Anyone else feel this way?</p>
<p>I agree! My daughter got lucky and hit 2 reach schools BUT that means saying no to 5 other schools that she would feel fortunate to attend. </p>
<p>It’s weird how quickly the tables have turned. We went from beggers to picky eaters in about 2 weeks. </p>
<p>But yep it’s hard to send the ‘no thanks’ note to a wonderful school.
Best,
Wheaty</p>
<p>I know it’s hard, because it really is a courtship process, where you have to genuinely show interest in folks, and then end up turning them down. There’s a lot of emotional investment in this process.</p>