<p>I don't really know if this is allowed here, but I need serious advice. Basically, i've been with the same boy for over 6 months. We dated for 2 of those 6 months and then I broke up with him but we got back together (just not going out) a few days later. I'm completely in love with him and we spent a lot of time together, except his friends really didn't care for me, so he almost sort of hid the fact that he was with me sometimes which sort of annoyed me. I however was madly in love with him and sort of blindsided. Recently, he's got into some trouble with his car (junior license issues) and he decided that I was one of the factors causing him stress so he told me he needs a break. I've been depressed for the past week, crying 24/7 and just hoping that he would change his mind. He feels horrible but he just needs a break to sort some things out. I'm extremely paranoid and feel like he's gonna end up liking someone else while we're in this "break". Also, he goes to college in about 5ish months (he's a senior/i'm a junior) so I just wanna spend as much time as possible with him. Does anyone have any idea what I should do, because I can't keep crying like this )= Thanks soo much for any advice you could give me.</p>
<p>I’m sorry for how you’re feeling. You could tell him that if he keeps this up, he runs the risk of losing you. Then see how he really feels. But try not to be overly pressing, if he’s already stressed. Don’t be afraid to tell him all your feelings; that’s the only way to find out for sure how things will work.</p>
<p>Just step back, take a deep breath, and relax. Have faith that everything will fall into place as it should, and it will.</p>
<p>^^ I’m going to say that she shouldn’t just gush all of her feelings out to him. I’m in/coming out of a similar situation with a girl and she was a stage five clinger. Definitely not a positive.</p>
<p>If she’s in love with him after 6 months, she shouldn’t feel held back from telling him.</p>
<p>OP, was there a serious reason for you initially breaking up with him?</p>
<p>My opinion stands. I don’t think the time is right for a confession of being madly in love. In fact, I wouldn’t even say love. Really care about? OK. But I think love will scare him off. </p>
<p>I’m not saying she doesn’t love him. I can’t be the judge of that, especially from the minimal information we have. But my best advice is to avoid the word love, if he’s anything at all like me (and like I said, I was just in a really similar situation so I may know some of the concerns he has).</p>
<p>NulliSecundus, he knows how I feel about him, we told each other we loved each other all the time, and he knows how badly this is killing me, today he came over and saw I got upset and felt horrible and tried to make me feel better, but the only way to do that is for me to be back with him.</p>
<p>BillyMc, originally when I broke up with him back in October, I didn’t really like him as much as he liked me. We got into a rough patch after that where I had a fling with a guy (horrible mistake) and I wish I could take it back completely and just go back to September, which is when he really truly liked me and cared about me. </p>
<p>I’m just hurt because I feel like I gave him EVERYTHING and now i’m just heartbroken. I wanna try to help him with his problems as well, but he’s kind of shutting me out to them, but still talking to me at the same time. We’ve been through tough times, especially with the racial barrier, i’m from a typical italian family, my parents don’t feel so great about him, since he’s indian, but I’m so in love with him. This sounds ridiculous but after 6 months, I really feel like I wanna be with him for the rest of my life. Sorry to babble on, I just need to talk about it with someone.</p>
<p>Are you sure he isn’t still upset about you being with another guy? I’ve been with the same girl for nearly two years now, and I know I would be. Something like that could fester.</p>
<p>@BillyMc, no i really don’t think he is. He was kind of talking to another girl, but we moved past the whole thing and almost grew stronger from it. The whole stem of the recent fight was me feeling like we hadn’t been spending that much time together. As stated earlier his friends really dislike me so he’s always worried about what they thought and stuff. I’ve done everything to try to make him happier, I’ve never been fat or anything, most people consider me very in shape, but I lost 9 pounds so far, because he likes very in fit, tiny girls (hes very skinny himself), I started to dress differently (he likes conservativeness) and even wasn’t as loud (i’m outgoing and friendly), I just wanna be happy again.</p>
<p>Do you know why his friends don’t like you?</p>
<p>I think you should take this time as the perfect opportunity to define who you are with or without this guy… Take the break and spend some time focusing on yourself and thinking about the kind of person you really want to be. Do you really want to have to change yourself to fit the mold of what you think someone else wants? Or do you want to have someone accept you as you are? </p>
<p>I hate to say this, but “I want to take a break” is often code for “I want to break up with you, but I don’t want to be a jerk about it”. The on-again off-again relationship usually doesn’t end well… I should know, I’ve had one. His reasons for taking a break seem very superficial and petty (car problems? stress? “need to figure things out”?). You either deserve better or you both just need some time to think about what you want in a relationship.</p>
<p>Don’t get me wrong, I hope everything works out for the best for you. But if it doesn’t, you should know that things will definitely be ok. There is no guy out there that you cannot live without. Even if you really love him, it is possible to move on and be happy without him if it comes to that. There is ALWAYS another person out there for you, especially since you are so young. </p>
<p>Just try to find out exactly who you are as an individual right now. That’s part of adolescence after all, and our earliest relationships are all about figuring out who we are and how we feel about things like love and how we interact with other people on an emotional level. Focusing on yourself will make you less sad because you won’t be moping over him anymore.</p>
<p>This sounds like the exact wrong time to confess your feelings.</p>