<p>When you started your freshman year, how long was it before you started comfortably dating someone? Or, for those of you already in relationships, did the relationship last once you went to college?</p>
<p>Also, anyone out there who's in a successful long distance relationship? How are you keeping things going like normal?</p>
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Oxymoron. Haha kidding, although not really. </p>
<p>There are three couples that I’ve known that have stuck together. One couple was like Christian purity ring types (aka super faithful and monogamous), another saw each other every month for at least a few days (although not as monogamous haha), and the third was a mix of both. I’d say something like that almost needs to happen for it to work out, but even if those conditions exist it still may not work out. Like there was this one couple that saw each other every weekend but still broke up with distance being one of the main factors.</p>
<p>I’ve been with the same boy since my freshmen year of high school. We’re both faithful, but we’ve had our challenges. I’m a second year in college. Our first year was tough at first but then we got used to not seeing each other every day (as we had been accustomed to). We saw each other almost every weekend though. Less than a week after my first year ended, I went to Costa Rica for two months where I could only call him every few days for only a few minutes. That was the toughest for us- but we were fine. It made us realize how much we loved each other.</p>
<p>This second year we had issues starting around Thanksgiving. He had a freak out because he realized he was engaged at the age of 21. Thinking about the future scared him and we almost broke up. Now, we’ve broken off our engagement and promised not to talk about the future. Things seem to be going well. </p>
<p>The key to relationships in college (ones that started before college) is to just communicate. Communicate about EVERYTHING and communicate often. The distance is make or break for couples. If it’s not going to work, don’t be afraid to let it go. If you can’t handle the distance then you’re not that stable of a couple anyway and it’s best just to let it all go.</p>
<p>I started seeing my fiance in January of my freshman year. We go to different schools but it’s just a half hour away so it’s not too big of a deal.</p>
<p>Watch the movie “Road Trip” to answer your second question.</p>
<p>Nuff said</p>
<p>long distance relationships don’t work. I don’t care who you are, unless you are some asexual human being who is simply not capable of attracting another girl, so many urges will take over, and it’s not happening.</p>
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<p>This is not true. I know people who were celibate and in such relationships. They ultimately broke up, but it was not due to uncontrollable sexual urges.</p>
<p>CornellPerson – my brother and his fiancee dated long-distance for six years. They literally lived across the country from each other (brother on east coast, fiancee on west) for most of the time, until she went to grad school in a state closer to us. They’re finally getting married this summer. (I get to be a bridesmaid YAY!) They’ve had plenty of arguments and issues (she confides in me sometimes), but they totally adore each other (: He’s handsome, and she’s really pretty. So yes, it’s possible.</p>
<p>I am also curious as to people’s experiences regarding the matter. I have a really bizarre crush on a guy who goes to school several hours away, and I don’t even know how to approach the matter.</p>
<p>As for my school, most of the girls date guys around the Boston area. Many of the first-years I know have already found a boyfriend because the general dating attitude is that of wanting to form long-term relationships with guys.</p>
<p>In any event, any heterosexual relationship a girl from my school has is technically long distance.</p>
<p>My best friend and her boyfriend decided to stay together in college - until he called her and dumped her a week into college. Which, honestly, I think was obnoxious and cowardly, because if you commit to having a long-distance relationship, you should at least give it a try for longer than one week. Regardless, I think he just got to college and was so overwhelmed by the new workload, new people, and - although he probably won’t admit it - many new girls that he didn’t want to feel “tied down” already. Although I hate that he did that to my friend, I understand the rationale behind it - some people just want to start completely over in college.</p>
<p>^^</p>
<p>Also, sometimes people think that but realize that it is not what they actually want. My girlfriend of a year and a half and I broke up before college, because we didn’t want to deal with the doubt and difficulties of a long distance relationship, and also because we didn’t want to be “that kid” who never leaves his/her room because they are always on skype with their significant other. </p>
<p>Well after a couple months we realized that we missed talking to each other and always having someone there for you, so we decided to get back together, and its been going fabulously ever since.</p>
<p>I tried it, ultimately didn’t work out.</p>
<p>All the long-distance relationships I’ve seen have failed. Or are ridiculously unhealthy. I think I could do it because of my personality, but I wouldn’t want to unless I didn’t think I could not be with the other person.</p>
<p>But I’m extremely anti-relationships for the first few years of college. It’s about having fun, enjoy being able to do whatever you want! Have fun, try new things, make mistakes, see new things, go new places! Those things in most cases don’t mesh all that well with being in a committed relationship.</p>
<p>I’m actually anti-relationships in general, for me at least. They’re too much work and I’m having way too much fun just being single and being able to do whatever I want with whoever I want, you know?</p>
<p>RoxSox - I agree with the last part. Although I’m not exactly anti-relationships, I certainly enjoy being single, especially during my first term at college.</p>
<p>I’ve never really officially “dated” anyone halfway into my 3rd year of college. I just have extremely high standards, prefer being single, and have very little free time to care either way. I’ve only seen 1 relationship pan out from high school to college thus far…not very good odds. I’ve noticed that in college generally there are the serial daters (people who get in and out of relationships really easily), the long-term-relationship people (who meet someone at the very beginning of college and date them all the way through), then there’s people like me where they kind-of choose to do their own thing.</p>
<p>For me, there is really nothing I am interested in doing that I can’t do because of my boyfriend. If anything I get to experience a lot more and have a lot more fun because I have him to count on for support, and we have done a lot of amazing things together. And short of going to make out with another man, I really can’t think of anything he would want to try and stop me from doing. I can go out, I can party, as long as I am not hooking up he does not care-- and I don’t believe in physical relations outside of a committed relationship anyway, it’s just not my thing, so I am not deprived of anything I would want. If we were more emotionally needy people who were less secure in our relationship together, it would be a lot harder I think and then I would be missing out, I see a lot of couples that just seem to need constant affirmation of the relationship and they end up letting the relationship dominate their lives, but that isn’t the case for me. So it all works out.</p>