<p>Anyone trying to hold onto a very productive, positive and unusually strong relationship with a high school partner back at home?</p>
<p>I am potentially in this boat and I want to see what everyone else would do. Upperclassmen please post on here if you experienced the same thing freshman year. How did you deal with the stress on the relationship? Is it really that hard and tempting?</p>
<p>though I did not go through this situation, I have found that most relationships that extend from college to high school have ended for my peers, especially if they have gone to different schools or if one is still in high school. There are a few however, that have gone to the same school and still maintain a relationship. Many of these couples, however, remain friends, which is a great thing. I would recommend doing what feels natural to you. First and foremost is to maintain a friendship with your hs girl/boyfriend. And second is to maintain the relationship. you will change alot in college. Dont be afraid of change that is what college is for. you will grow and your girl/boyfriend will grow. Hopefully you will grow together, and remain, at the very least, friends. However, do not become a recluse b/c you are afraid you will be tempted by a girl/guy at college. That normally backfires.</p>
<p>i would totally agree with you, but actually most of the people i know who tried to stay with their high school sweetheart has. I'm actually really surprised.</p>
<p>Try staying together - there's NOTHING worse than planning to break up before you leave for college :X</p>
<p>who cares. break up. go to college. hook up with a lot of people. and if you choose, settle down later. have kids. be typical humans and reproduce. or be enlightened and engage in hooksup for your whole life.</p>
<p>typical humans? reproduce? not exactly.</p>
<p>I think that its just me, I'm not a very promiscuous guy. I prefer relationships, honestly. As far as reproducing, I think that adoption is my only option. ;)</p>
<p>I doubt it will work out. Most of my friends who did this ended up breaking up badly. You are in two completely different worlds when one is in college and one is in high school. I know a lot of people who regret coming to college in relationships because of all the time they wasted when they should have been meeting new people.</p>
<p>Stay together and give it a try. Otherwise won't you always be wondering "could it have worked out?" It'll be hard, and there's a lot of trust involved in distance. But don't sacrifice going out on weekends and meeting people. You can still go to parties while in a relationship, drunken hookups are not a must. Chances are if it's not working you both will feel the same way about wanting to end it.</p>
<p>^this thread seems pretty split^ (last two post)</p>
<p>seeing as how you're not a very promiscuous guy.. i'd say gopher it. you sound pretty confident in your relationship.</p>
<p>You might be able to make it work, but my freshman-year roommate tried it and it went horribly. The problem in that case was that her boyfriend was very jealous...he would get suspicious because she was hanging out in our hall lounge in mixed company, and he expected her to spend hours a day talking to him on the phone or AIM. She dumped him over spring break, and about a month later started dating a hallmate - it's been more than two years and they're still together.</p>
<p>Moral of the story: It has a better chance if neither of you are jealous people.</p>
<p>^ agree. if either of you have jealousy issues.. it's going to be a very stressful time.</p>
<p>I knew someone who tried this...she had a boyfriend she'd been with for about 3 years in high school, and she would go on about how they soulmates and so connected and so right for each other and so on. So she went to college about an hour, hour and a half from home and he went to study somewhere much farther away for a year (it was a study abroad kind of thing, I forget where he was going to school permenantly but it was closer to home). She lasted about a week before she started with the drunken makeouts, 2 months before she decided to pick up a newer, more local boyfriend, and about 6 before the first boyfriend at home found out. As far as I know, her boyfriend remained faithful the whole time and her new boyfriend also had a girlfriend at home that was being cheated on. So I'm going to go with "bad idea".</p>
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<p>I find teenagers who say this usually don't last long in a relationship.</p>
<p>my gf and i have been together for a little over a year now. she lives in FL and I live in MD...we are both going to Penn together. The only reason why i think it will work (and i pray it does) is because we are going to the same school. I honestly dont know how it would have worked out had we gone to different schools even though we have spent a year 1300 miles apart another 4 years apart would be suicide. even now i sometimes find myself in sad and semi depressive moods just because i want to be with her..love is the strongest of emotions to play with..you will have ALOT of that if you are in college tempted by everything around you and all these new and exciting people. if you really really think you can handle it go for it. but in my mind a lasting relationship requires one to be close to their sig. other because its STRESSFUL...trust me..i hope mines works out and yours if you do go for it
GoodLuck! :)</p>