<p>Post 332- the nieces are unlikely to choose the mother who punishes them for their choice over the relative who understands even while disagreeing with the choice. Nothing to lose. Only give money you expect no return from- as they say, you can’t buy love. Do what you feel is the right thing to do- and without hiding it. Keep your own ethics/morals/principals. It is hard for parents to see kids not meeting their expectations/hopes/dreams. Don’t worry about sibling relationships. Your relationship with your spouse is the one that matters, concern yourself with meshing philosophies. A loving spouse means a lot more than maintaining ties from childhood.</p>