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I agree with this.
These nieces are ADULTS. How far can their parents go in orchestrating their lives?
I don’t think their parents have a “right” to ask you to refrain from helping them. They are not 12 years old. Think about this - if the parents are so controlling now; when will it end? Will they stop you from buying a wedding gift? Housewarming present? Baby gifts?</p>
<p>Give what you are willing and able without any expectation of return. This is unconditional love. It’s nice these girls have someone in their lives who loves and supports them.</p>