Respect Parents' request

[JustAMomOf4]

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Adults - parents, relatives, friends- do not have a right to tell adults how they should behave or treat someone else. Friends may have a riff, a parent may have a problem with a child, a child might have a problem with a relative and so on. It is their right to act how they choose to act with the person in conflict…what is not healthy or appropriate is for them to ask or expect other adults to join the battle and behave a certain way with said person. This is where you get the “well if you let her come to the wedding, I’m not coming” and “if you talk to so-and-so then you are not my friend anymore” and on and on. It’s dysfunctional and ridiculous.

I wholeheartedly agree.</p>

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Obviously, they are not independent adults. If they were independent, they would not be accepting money from others in order to finance their personal expenses. They would be working jobs to finance their own personal expenses.

It’s possible to be independent and still accept a gift of a plane ticket or money. I am independent but when I fly to Fla to visit my dad he happily pays my air fare. I run a tight budget and he his happy to help.</p>

<p>nysmile - what if the girls had chosen a life style with which you agree? would you feel the same way?</p>

<p>For instance - say the girls’ parents told them they should not join the military but enlisted anyway. The parents are anti-military - would the OP be wrong to send them a few bucks to get home on leave?</p>

<p>I think most people are objecting because they object to the lifestyle the girls have chosen.</p>