Oh I love that line "And I am not one of those to live in fear, rather reduce the odds and be vigilant. " So true!
I’m not an overbearing mother or helicopter mother. My kids never had a curfew or anyhting like that, but my kids always told me where they were. The first year my daughters wanted to go to Lollapalooza was the summer before junior year in high school. Well, no way were they going down there and taking the train (regular metra train) by themselves both ways. While there are no bad stops between ours and downtown, you never know what kind of whackadoos are on the trains at midnight just looking for trouble. I’ve heard of instances where kids fall asleep and get assaulted (sexually or otherwise) and not taking any chances with my kids who rarely every went downtown to begin with. So, we decided that we would get two hotel rooms. One for them and one for us. They went with one friend (and met others there). My husband and I did our thing, went to dinner then chilled at the hotel. So sure enough, that year that night major storms it was awful. They had to close it early. The girls came back to the hotel soaked. Luckily we were right near Grant Park at the Hyatt but ugh dirt and mess and teenage girls don’t mess. Their other friends that had been there it was a disaster, no one could get ubers to the trains, their groups got lost from one another, trains were too crowded, they also leave at set times once/hour, etc. Best thing we ever did. The next year though, since they were a little more familiar, I let them go but on the train only, not the subway which from our area still would’ve been safe, but other issues with getting them to/from there late at night because I didn’t want them driving because you just don’t know if someone was going to drink, etc. Thank god they stayed with their friends etc, but their other friends ugh, blew one another off, all that stuff. Bottom line is that when I need to be strict with them on certain things like that I won’t hold back. I went to school in Chicago and taught in Chicago as well as lived there in college and after I was married so I am well familiar with how careful one needs to be. But you said it, you need to be vigilent. My husband is from NYC and he will tell me not to take the subway and I just laugh at him. Of course one can take the subway, but be aware of it and know where not to go. He was a sheltered only child. My kids aren’t sheltered, but naive, for sure.
Best way to describe what you were describing is the income gap is widening and that’s a big problem. My husband and I discuss it all the time. I just got one tuition bill for $30k. The Michigan one hasn’t come yet, but that’s going to be $26k plus their extras, and my Texas one who only because she gained residence is only $6700. Had she not would have been $23k. I’ve been saving for them since the minute they were born and they have substantial 529 accounts because of it. But, that’s because I have been able to save and put that in from working, etc. What about people who can’t? Who can pay that? If you don’t have the extra money to put into college accounts when you’re kids are born then you won’t have any extra money for anything and the gap is going to widen and widen. My husband thinks the tax rate should be like 70% for people who make more than $1m. He’s probably right, but when you have people like Peter Thiel who has $5b in a Roth IRA that’s all non-taxable income to him, then what are your options? Housing is expensive, too many taxes are regressive, property taxes are outrageous, now we have inflation and rising food prices, car prices, etc. Not to mention the Delta variant making it’s way around the states with low vaccination rates. That’s going to knock off a lot of people. I just read that every death in June due to covid was an unvaccinated person. Common sense.
Anyway, back to the main topic. Campus safety. I know USC has a phenomenal security system and their campus I believe is similar to U-Chicago. Does UC have anything like USC in place? If not, someone should have them look into that.