sorry-too late to correct my typo above. I meant to say that soccer is typically recruited from clubs rather than from high school. 
Sometimes the HS coach and AD are absolute morons and you donāt want them anywhere near the process.
And other times they are very helpful. My daughterās club coach was the high school coach at a neighboring high school. She helped many kids from her high school (even if they played for the evil empire, the BIG club), she helped my daughter. My daughterās own high school coach was not a teacher and was fairly young so we didnāt ask for help.
I know the kids from my own high school get a lot of help. There are several guidance counselors who work with the athletes because they have so many kids who go to D1 schools and many who go to service academies and need the athletic component to get them in.
@kjs1992 I am wondering if you have any thoughts on the following scenario: my son has an offer for football from NESCAC school. He went to an overnight visit at another this weekend so we anticipated an offer (his first choice) since the process and level of engagement and enthusiasm was similar to the last school. The first day was great, then went to meet with head coach and he simply asked if there were any questions. My son asked where he was in the recruiting process and he said they just starting, like what they see but want to see how the rest of season goes. I asked if they did his pre-read and he said in process even thought they have had materials for a few weeks. He has two more Nescac invites over next two weeks but first offer wants to know before ED so he can go onto his next offer if he doesnāt take. He has act 32 and very high GPA.
What should we read into this scenario since all including his coach expected another offer. I wouldnāt care except it his first choice. Thoughts?
You might want to start a new thread so more people look at your question. If you have a deadline from the first coach, I donāt think there is anything wrong with sharing that with the second. If son tells him that you are my first choice, but I have to let School ___ know by ____. The coach may offer him support, or may suggest that he should take the offer. If he stays on the fence, then S needs to decide if he is willing to take the risk.
If your deadline is coming up quickly, then it is probably a good idea to be prepared to share this with the coaches on the other 2 visits as well if they want to take a wait and see approach.
I agree with dadof4kids. My D is being recruited D3. Her first choice seems to be on the fence now. She has a call scheduled tomorrow where she plans to tell choice #1 she needs to know if she has the coaches full support or not, and if not or still no commitment, she is moving on to her 2nd choice. Thankfully, she loves her 2nd choice too.
Thanks to @dadof4kids and @mamom for your input. I will tell my S to make sure the recruiting coach knows when he calls this week though I did mention in our meeting with head coach. The offering coach knew he had 3 other visits to get through so he was expecting to hear back later this month once the final visit was done. He also said he will likely get multiple offers now that they extended theirsā¦ I am glad mamomās D will be happy with 2nd choice too. My S will be happy with his too, its just the first choice is an opportunity of a lifetimeā¦ I will start a new thread too if I can think of a good headlineā¦cant think of one right now. thanks to both of you.
I agree w/ @dadof4kids and @mamom , too. Weāre going through something somewhat similar: #1 and #2 were too close to call as far as which one had the edge. He was contacted by Coach #1 in early August about his status with admissions, and the coach was offering support for ED. Our son contacted Coach #2 the next day to see if he could get the same support - he loves that school, too. #2 operates differently with admissions, so a pre-read was out - the coach was even disappointed to tell him that -best they could do was say he was āas good as it getsā for admission. That made #1 shoot way up. After his OV at #1, coach #1 wanted to know within a week what his intentions were for ED1 so that they knew how to use the slot. He knew this was āthe oneā the moment he stepped on campusā¦but, we still want him to keep #2 closeā¦just in case (and heād be happy there, as well). So, I guess you could say heās āverbally committedā to #1, and will keep #2 at ED2 if #1 falls apart. What a juggling game this has been! Good luck to you and your son!
Thank you @kjs1992
Iāll make sure he makes sure his first choice knows that itās his first choice and the timeline. He goes to another this weekend and I feel I know better the questions to ask if no offer is made. Good luck to your son too / sounds exciting.
I also started a new thread as suggestedā¦