So I am a freshman living in a three person dorm (not a suite), and one of my room-mates is really driving us up a wall.
He is almost always drunk/hungover, he has thrown up on the floor multiple times, his clothes are everywhere and the room is a mess because of it, he smokes weed in the room occasionally and stashes it in the room too, turns the thermostat up all the way in the middle of the night, and I just found that he keeps a knife and set of brass knuckles in the room.
Before I start the rest of this post I should state that I don’t fear for my safety in regard to him having the knife and what not, and I don’t feel like it is worth calling the police about it.
I have tried talking to him about the mess and maybe, you know, doing laundry every once in a while, but he won’t listen. Same goes for the trash, he says he will clean up but he never does. I usually have to clean up his stuff when i get sick of tripping over his shoes just trying to get out of the room, or when his trash starts piling up. I’m getting tired of trying to talk too him about stuff and just not having anything get done, and now with the drugs and the knife…its just a lot.
I’d like to get the RA involved but I honestly hate feeling like a snitch, and I know my room-mate would get all pissed and start throwing a fit when he’d be confronted about it. I know that’s not much of a reason for not getting the RA involved, but what can I say.
Any advice you guys have for dealing with this? I can give any other information that you guys want or need to help
Some universities would hold you accountable if you do NOT snitch and tell about the drugs. You also should fear for your safety – people who are intoxicated can do violent things they wouldn’t otherwise do if they were straight. You should talk to the RA immediately and tell the RA everything. The RA will be able to discuss options with you for how to resolve these issues.
I’m in a similar situation, I can’t stand the people I live with either. I’m considering talking to the RA but in all honestly I’m not sure how effective that would be for me since she is very laid back and doesn’t really do her job. If your seems to take their job a little more seriously then maybe they will be able to help you.
“Snitching” applies to minor stuff. Knives can be allowed or not, but the weed and probably the brass knuckles, are not. And, the binge drinking is an issue the roomie needs help for.
The only thing you can really get him for is the drugs. Knives are not illegal and brass knuckles are a grey area, his could be considered decorative or something like that.
If you really want him out, catch him in the act, but to avoid retribution have the cops either come when you’re not home or fake arrest you as well,
First of all, you are paying for this dorm so you should have a reasonable living experience there.
Talk to your RA, not about what he is doing, but how to work with him.
“I would like to talk to you about how to work with one of my roommates. I know that when you live someone, everyone has to make some adjustments, but this is getting out of hand. He has thrown up on the floor multiple times, and <doesn’t clean=”" it="" up="" waits="" until="" morning="" to="" up?=""> and has clothes and trash everywhere on the floor.
Also he turns the thermostat up all the way in the middle of the night, and sometimes I come into the room and smell something smoky. I have tried talking to him about it but nothing changes. What would you suggest?"</doesn’t>