<p>Ok, so I'm currently living in a suite style dorm, which means 2 rooms attached via a bathroom, so there are 4 girls sharing this bathroom. My roommate and I get along great, we have the same standards of cleanliness, hygiene, etc. My suitemates on the other hand are causing us both some distress. Being girls, I understand bathrooms can get a little messy, but I also expect some degree of cleanliness eventually. </p>
<p>It started decently clean, manageable, we're not crazy perfectionists. Over time the shower began to get hairier and hairier, and now there is LITERALLY a massive hairball in the drain, on the shower walls, in the sinks, just hair EVERYWHERE. I understand girls shed, like I really do, and I would honestly clean it myself if I had any suspicion that it were mine, but we know which girl it is because we are living with 3 blondes and 1 brunette and the hair is all very dark brown. </p>
<p>My suitesmates are very standoffish and unapproachable so far, and I've been wracking my mind with trying to think of nice and polite ways to deal with this problem! I tried to suffer in silence but it's just gotten out of hand. The last thing I want is to cause some kind of tension between us or to come off as accusatory or to act like we're ganging up on her. </p>
<p>so please help !</p>
<p>I had a similar situation last year. My roommate and I asked to talk to our suite mates and came up with a cleaning schedule together where my roommate and I did one week, they did the next. This way we weren’t confronting anyone and the bathroom was cleaned. Good luck!</p>
<p>clean it yourself without an attitude, it is worth avoiding the tension! get those heavy duty yellow gloves they sell in every supermarket / big box store, and some bathroom cleaner and go for it! (without the drama) next year live off campus in apartment with the room mate who is clean to your standards problem solved!</p>
<p>If it isn’t yours, you shouldn’t have to clean it. Ask both if they wouldn’t be more mindful of it and to clean after themselves. I had the same issue. There’d be make up all over the sink (I don’t wear makeup), chunks of food in the sink that drew bugs and HAIR. I bought a sponge and cleanser for the sink but thankfully, we had housekeepers clean the bathroom once a week in the suites.
My roommate shed like a dying cat and I had to ask a lot of times for her to pick up the chunks of hair by the door and she did it occasionally while making passive aggressive remarks claiming it was someone else’s.</p>
<p>Don’t start the trend of cleaning the bathroom yourself when you aren’t the one leaving the mess. It’s a bad place to be in for the rest if the year.</p>
<p>Just ask everyone to clean after themselves without singling one person out because they’ll likely get an attitude or defensive.</p>
<p>A cleaning schedule sounds great. Find a time when everyone is around (I agree that singling one or two people out isn’t good) and just discuss the sentiments you’ve expressed here. Even people who don’t like cleaning usually prefer a clean bathroom, and if they don’t feel like the responsibility is solely on their shoulders, they’ll probably make an effort to clean up after themselves.</p>
<p>If it’s really terrible, consider getting your RA involved, but first give them an opportunity to react to the information given to them. It may be intuitive to you to know that the bathroom needs to be cleaned, but some people just aren’t bothered by mess, especially if it’s their mess.</p>
<p>If that doesn’t work, then as one of the above posters said, take it as a learning experience and carefully choose your roommates next year!</p>