<p>i've been posed with a dilemma. i've decided to go to UCLA and i'm really excited about this.
however, i'm not sure whether i should room with someone i know or go for a random experience. </p>
<p>these are my two options</p>
<p>i can go with a friend who got into UCLA as well and wants to room with me and it's not totally a
bad idea because i know he's respectful and i won't have any privacy problems. on the other
hand, he's not exactly the most social fella and i question his hygiene. i basically don't wanna
go with him to parties or social outings because he's kind of an anti-poon. seriously. </p>
<p>OR</p>
<p>I can go for a random roomate which may be kind of exciting and a good experience but of course
there are worries of being with a rude roomate who i will ultimately have tensions with when it comes
to common courtesy. </p>
<p>what do you guys think would be better?
i know my issue may seem kind of petty but it's been on my mind for a while now and im still unsure.
i'm also aware that it is pretty much a subjective topic but i'd really like to hear some of your opinions
on this matter. </p>
<p>thanks a lot. on an unrelated note, are there any iss members on here?</p>
<p>i roomed with i girl i went to high school with and let me tell you DONT DO IT!!! it sucks!!!!! one of the best parts of your first year is getting to live with a stranger, its part of the college experience. living with my roommate feels like im still stuck in my hometown. its sucks. i wish i had listened to everyone who told me not to live with someone im already friends with and now im stuck in a room with someone who i have MAJOR problems with.</p>
<p>is your friend really close one or just an acquaintince? if he is the latter i would go room with him - it's risky getting a random. there are plenty of horror studies (and of course situations where it's worked out too). if he is like your best friend you might ruin the friendship by rooming with him, so then i would go for the random.</p>
<p>honestly the best person to advise you on this is- you. </p>
<p>you can get a ton of anecdotes each way on this, but really, only you know how much you WANT comfort as opposed to a new experience. for the record, two of my guy friends roomed together their first year, and while some nerves were stepped on, that's just how it goes, and they're still friends (and still living together in an apartment this and next year).</p>
<p>so. do you want a known home base, and go out and explore new things? or do you want to leap in and have the true college meet-new-people experience? how solid is your friendship? if he doesn't shower for a few days will you not talk to him for a week? only you know these things. if you don't want to live with him, it's not like he'll stop being your friend because you said no. hopefully he'll understand it's for the best. if you do wanna live with him, recognize that you're gonna learn more about him, and have him learn more about you, than before. all your habits, whether he snores, blahdeblah. is that an okay variable in your friendship? or do you prefer getting together to work out or go to class or eat lunch, and then go your separate ways? up to you. anecdotes aren't gonna help, there's no hard and fast rule.</p>
<p>well i knew chances are I was gonna get a triple so i just picked one friend and had one random roommate, they both are pretty cool tho but i have heard some people get really crappy roomates..</p>
<p>he's more of an acquaintance.
i really don't know much about him except that he needs some social skills. </p>
<p>i hate saying this but...
he's kinda like the person you don't wanna be seen with a lot of times.
he's a nice guy... just a lil lame. </p>
<p>i want to room with an asian person. im asian and i've lived in a city devoid of
asians so i thought it'd be interesting. is there a way to specify this? =]</p>
<p>LMAO anti poon. Ok if you're really questioning whether you should room with him, i would just go with a random person. that way you won't have to worry about hurting your friend's feelings if hes really embarrassing you and you wished you didn't room with him. Just tell him you want to room random so you can meet new people. OR you could get a triple with him, so there'll be at least one new person. If you go completely random you might get jacka$$es for roommates, so beware.</p>
<p>"i basically don't wanna
go with him to parties or social outings because he's kind of an anti-poon."</p>
<p>You don't have to go to parties with your roommate, sheesh. Like FireEmblem pointed out, if you have to even ask, then don't do it. Because seriously, I know a LOT of things about my roommates I don't really want to know about my friends. And a lot of times, they get on my nerves. And, of course, I get on theirs. But they are my friends, and I'm rooming again with one of them next year, but... but still, man. We know way too much about each other, so it makes it risky to be really close. Yadidi?</p>
<p>Don't risk random roommates. I've been suffering two long quarters with random roommates and it has been hell. Thankfully, I'm switching out this quarter. :D</p>
<p>Well have you considered the idea that you might be put w/ 2 other people? It could happen. For me I submitted my housing a couple of days ago and I'm trying to room w/ two of my close friends in a plaza. Honestly, if you know your friend well and feel comfortable doing it then go for it. But if you feel some sort of hesitation it's obviously a bad idea.</p>
<p>Also, you don't have to get a random roomate. If you go on facebook there are groups dedicated to finding roomates. Do some research and chat with them. That way it'll still be different, yet at the same time you'll know that you won't be stuck w/ a creep. Best of luck!</p>
<p>freshmen in tripes is not a matter of could happen, its a matter of almost certainly will happen! expect a triple (80%+ chance) unless you have some sort of medical waiver</p>