<p>Hello,</p>
<p>I am a first-year student at Cal Poly SLO. I'm living in the dorms this year and have met loads of super awesome people. It's been terrific; the new friends I have made make me so happy. College is definitely a good thing for me.</p>
<p>Now
here's the problem. One of my friends who is really nice and fun told me that he wants to room with me next year and get a house. A couple of days later, another two friends of mine asked me if I want to room with them next year. I have to decide which group I want to commit to. I don't think it would work to all go in a house together, because it would end up being about 8 people which is way too much.</p>
<p>How do I decide and how do I tell the person who I decide not to room with that I'm rooming with someone else
I like both of these people so much and I hate making decisions like this...</p>
<p>I can’t say which one you should room with because that’s really just whichever one you prefer to live with. But I can say that you don’t have to feel too worked up about which one of them you live with. Saying that you’re going to room with someone else doesn’t mean that you have to stop being the other person’s friend or that you’re never going to see them again. They’re still your friend, and it’s really not that big of a deal. I know people who are great friends with each other but who both know that they could never live with each other, and that’s okay. Don’t feel like you’re hurting anyone’s feelings or breaking up with anyone just by choosing to live somewhere else next year.</p>
<p>It’s also okay to consider things like: which friend seems to be neater, which seems more similar to you with regards to day-to-day activities (like morning vs. night person, likes loud music vs. likes quiet, likes to party all the time vs. likes to keep the parties outside of the house, etc), which seems more reliable (for things like paying rent or finding an apartment), which seems more approachable to you if you having any issues with the living arrangements, etc.</p>
<p>I think they’d both appreciate you to just pick one and let them both know, as opposed to spending a lot of time worrying about hurting anyone’s feelings.</p>