<p>One of my best friends got into the same college as me, and we were debating whether we should be roommates or not. We have always gotten along great, but
1) rooming together might cause drama/end up ruining our friendship?
2) it might limit us to eachother, and prevent us from branching out and meeting new people.
At the same time though, we don't know how accurate the survey system for muir would be. Maybe it'd be a little better if we room together, but along with a 3rd person as well? If anybody have any advice from experience that'd be great! :)</p>
<p>I wouldn’t be worried about not being able to meet other people.</p>
<p>if you are in muir and request each other, you will not be able to have a random roommate. you must request the third roommate as well.
just keep in mind that while you may be great friends, not everyone is compatible as roommates. i have many close friends that i could not live with.
i strongly suggest that each of you thoroughly talk about every possible thing that you could might have issues with: diets, sleeping patterns, homework, how much time you spend in your room, drinking, visitors, sex, religion, cleanliness/messiness, etc. if you both don’t have agreeing views on most of those things or can’t compromise, then rethink living together.
you will also probably want to talk about the possibility of one of you moving out in the case that some so severe happens that you need to move. make sure there are no hard feelings now and that you will try to keep it that way in case something like this happens.</p>
<p>DEFINITELY agree with the above advice on talking thoroughly about every single thing. Set up rules in advance so it’s not awkward if you need to have a talk with them… that is the biggest mistake I made this year - my roommate and I were bff’s so we assumed we’d be on the same page on everything, definitely NOT the case! </p>
<p>But overall I would recommend rooming with this person because the surveys get really effed up sometimes and you could get stuck with a real weirdo.</p>
<p>Eek. I definitley do not want to end up with a “real weirdo”, but I feel like there wouldn’t be too many of them … ? & also, do you remember what kind of questions they ask on the survey?</p>
<p>oh my goddddd you don’t even know the number of weirdo’s i’ve encountered! My entire suite was sooo gross I would’ve gone insane living with them… I don’t think this was the typical experience though. Most people are somewhat normal, you’re right.</p>
<p>Yeah they ask you if you’re a late riser or an early riser/if you go to bed late or early, if you play music when you study, if you’re clean or messy, social or not, smoker or not, etc. A lot of people it seemed were matched to their exact opposite.</p>
<p>If I were you, I’d go with rooming with other people. While you guys get along great, you never really know someone until you’ve had to live in a small room with them all the time, and that could cause problems and ruin friendships. Also, it would be beneficial for you to live with other people because then you can branch out and meet new friends. (These are the primary reasons why me and my best friend didnt room together).</p>
<p>If after a year you and your friend feel like you can live together, than you can always live in the same suite, room together, get an apartment off campus, or whatever. You have many years for that.</p>
<p>So if we go through some time rooming seperately and both agree that we don’t like our roommates, would we be able to request rooming together, even if the year already started?</p>
<p>Ok this is a toughy. …</p>
<p>PROS TO LIVING WITH A FRIEND: You’ll probably be more comfortable. You’ll be able to share things if you/they want to. You’ll feel better about being away from home if you’re going out of state or far. Great memories will only get better. And people who get along make their rooms a magnet for visitors. Other people on your floor will naturally gravitate towards you and your room will become the chill spot which means more friends, more laughs and all that good stuff.</p>
<p>CON TO LIVING WITH A FRIEND: If you and your friend choose to live together, realize that there WILL be parts of each other that you’ve never seen before. You will learn new things about them that you may not necessarily be cool with but realize that there are friends you can love but not want to live with at all (from experience this is totally possible)</p>
<p>PROS TO LIVING WITH A STRANGER: You get to meet someone new. Your roomie can become your new college best friend. You can learn a lot from new people so dont close yourself off to this. IF you choose this, remember that you must be tolerant of other backgrounds because not everyone grew up like you did. If you take the time to understand them, you’ll have a much greater experience.</p>
<p>CON TO LIVING WITH A STRANGER: Complete strangers might be nuts! I’m telling you (also from experience) when you get a random, you don’t have any idea who that person may be. So be careful! I don’t even want to get into my stories or scare you but at first sign that you guys really can NOT get along, don’t torture yourself for a whole year (like I did) request someone new immediately!</p>
<p>No. Once you have a roommate, you’re locked in, unless your roommate agreed to do a switch (which is really rare since they probably dont want to move things out and back in).</p>
<p>What i meant is that the next school year you can do that.</p>
<p>Oh that sucks, I don’t got to UCSC so I wouldn’t know what their roommate policies are.</p>
<p>you’ll always be able to see each other even if you don’t room with each other. but the thing is if you fight or if there’s drama, you won’t be able to avoid each other. it works both ways. </p>
<p>just consider how open you are to new people and rooming with a stranger. and how willing you are to work out problems that could arise with your friend if you live together. best of luck :)</p>
<p>Thank you so much for all the advice, guys! It really helps :)</p>
<p>I guess I’ll have to talk to my friend more about it. I might choose to trust the survey system … Probably won’t trust facebook to find a roommate. I heard muir doesn’t use machines to pair people. They use people … I just really don’t want to miss the opportunty to make a new close friend and put myself out there. Hmm! It’s definitley a tough decision. So thanks for the responses! I’ll read and consider them all to make the right decision! :)</p>
<p>just FYI, I found my freshman roommate on the ERC facebook group and we are still best friends to this day :)</p>
<p>^sortof going along with this comment, i was going to wait for muir’s res life to place me with random people, but at orientation i actually found my roommate and we’re best friends and still roommates now:)
if you’d like to see if this is possible for you as well, try to go to orientation sessions 1-3. the weekend after my orientation ended, so did the roommate request deadline. the last june orientations and the september one weren’t fortunate enough to be able to do this.</p>
<p>What’s the link for the ERC facebook group?</p>
<p>Google is your friend.</p>
<p>[UCSD</a> ERC Class of 2014 | Facebook](<a href=“Facebook Public Group | Facebook”>Facebook Public Group | Facebook)</p>
<p>Oh! So if I go to the 1st or 2nd session I’d be able to maybe meet someone. That’s great! 
What exactly do you do at muir’s orientation?</p>
<p>yeah you will have time to figure that out:)</p>
<p>idk if this year will be different than last year but for mine we toured the campus, had awesome seminars and got to meet the deans, provost, a lot of the res life staff, played group games, ate a lot of good food, and had some surprises which i won’t spoil for you. it was a packed but awesome two days.
and i know a lot of the incoming class is already worrying about schedules and all that, so it’ll ease a lot of people because each person at orientation gets about 15-20 minutes to meet with an academic advisor who will help you plan your first quarter, and possibly give you a brief idea about how your four years can work.
definitely go into it with an extremely open mind, enjoy and make the best of every activity, and meet a lot of people.
and if your parent(s)/guardian(s) are planning on attending it with you, the majority of the time they aren’t with you.</p>