I’m a freshman in college, and after the first semester, my roommate and I don’t really get along. We pretty much don’t talk unless necessary or he makes rude pointless comments about things I’m doing (playing pc or doing homework in bed). Anyways, he loves to party and go out, but he always comes back completely destroyed, pushes me or does something to me to wake me up whenever he comes back just to tell me how much he drank and how cool he is. It messes with my sleep and I have told him repeatedly how I would prefer to be left alone when I sleep. Also, every weekend so far he has gotten so drunk he throws up in the room. Tonight he threw up from his bed, all over the carpet and my backpack and shoes. I have had enough of this nonsense but don’t wanna be that kid that snitches and tells on his roommate. He also has alcohol in the room and I don’t want him to get caught and me get cited as well for it being my room if I were to report him. What do I do? I have talked with him about this many times but he says I can’t control his life decisions
Go the RA. Request a room change.
Sounds awful. Do what you need to do to request a room or roommate change.
Go to RA. You don’t need this class of problems bothering your life.
He is not your brother neither your friend.
Request a roomate change.
Good luck.
Absolutely get a roommate change for this semester.
You have a right not to be “pushed” or have your stuff destroyed by a drunk.
You ask for a roommate change immediately and tell your superiors everything about what he’s doing.
People like that are set out to be losers if they don’t change their ways. Trust me, you do not want to be around them. You don’t want to talk to them, you don’t want to have to look at them, you don’t want to live with them. Get a room change right away and get back to focusing on what you’re there to do.
Your roommate has no self-control or boundaries. You should never tolerate someone pushing you and destroying your things. Please take the necessary steps to get a room change for your own well being.
You are not being a snitch. If what you write is true and accurate, your roommate truly needs help and possibly rehab. Go to the RA and tell him/her what is going on. If you don’t want to do that, tell them you have irreconcilable differences and need to move rooms. Maybe the next person assigned to him will have the ability to inform authorities who might be able to help him. You don’t owe your roommate silence - you owe yourself the ability to perform, relax and achieve in college.
Agree about going to the RA. If your roommate rolled in drunk and didn’t bother you I’d say to let it go and find a new roommate for next year. But this is beyond what is acceptable – at this point your roommate is infringing on your right to enjoy your room, to get a good night sleep, and to keep your belongings protected. I would suggest that if you have friends on the hall that your roommate should move, not you.
Yea, either tell your RA or give your roommate one last chance by telling them you’re going to request a different roommate if they won’t stop bothering you, maybe the threat of disciplinary action will wake them up.
How to solve roommate problems in general:
- Think about the reasonableness of your request. Not getting woken up or having people puke in your room is reasonable.
- Take steps to ameliorate the situation yourself. Nothing you can do here.
- Discuss issue with Roommate. Check
- See if roommate is compromising…No, he won’t stop.
5)Think about what you want to the end result to be…that works for both of you. He stops getting drunk? Leaves you alone and doesn’t puke? - Go to RA. State the issue, state that you have talked to roommate (because they will ask), state that you have tried other steps (like eyemasks) and ask for help in resolving the situation. “RA, I would like to get your advice on figuring out a resolution to an issue I am having with my roommate. .”
Most likely they will come up with a roommate contract for you both to sign, but in your case they may refer the roommate to alcohol counseling.
- Follow the contract…and if your roommate doesn’t, then go back to the RA. If your roommate retaliates, go back to the RA.
- If RA doesn’t follow through or is useless, see if there is a different RA in your building. If not, go to the Housing office. Explain you have gone through the “chain of command”…that is, you talked to your roommate and then the RA but the issue still exists and it is preventing you from sleeping.
I draw the line at him puking on your stuff and you possibly being punished for alcohol in the room that is his. Done. RA time.