<p>My roommate and I met during orientation and we hit it off good. We then found out we were roommates and she texted me right away. We met at the dorms and even our parents got along and exchanged numbers. We hanged out for two days straight together and I even met her friend. But, then one day she starts to ignore me and try to brush me off. I was really irritated because if she didn't want to be friends why didn't she do that from the beginning? So, when she said one day, "I'm leaving." I didn't respond. And I guess this bothered her because she started ignoring me after that.</p>
<p>Now it's really awkward and I hate being in my dorm room. She doesn't talk to me and I don't talk to her. To make it worse her friend is ALWAYS sleeping over, even though she has a dorm room in another building. It just makes me feel worse when they are always whispering to each other.</p>
<p>What should I do? I want to relax in my dorm room and not feel awkward. How should I talk to her? She is kind of mean, always judging people easily, even calling our suitemate a "dike" all because of the way she dressed. How should I approach this situation? I also don't want any visitors in the dorm. It doesn't make me feel comfortable.</p>
<p>You have an RA. Get her involved.</p>
<p>I don’t think my RA can help . . . It’s her first time as an RA and during the floor meeting when my roommate and her friend were talking REALLY loud while she was the girl wouldn’t do anything.</p>
<p>If your RA is shy, I would recommend visiting your Hall Director who is in charge of the entire residential hall. Usually there is a roommates contract that you both will sign and that will have details about overnight guest preferences.</p>
<p>I’d like to point out that an RA not quieting people down during a meeting is different than them helping with roommate conflict issues. Some people are just okay with people being loud and boisterous, but they’ll help out with serious stuff. </p>
<p>I’d suggest trying to talk to her just once. Say something like “Hey, I’m not really comfortable with (insert friend’s name) sleeping over here, so can you stop having her sleep here?” although I’m more assertive and would have something probably harsher than that. Her friend sleeping over without your permission is a huge deal, so I’d do it ASAP. If talking to her doesn’t work, I’d go straight to the RA.</p>
<p>It seems like she is claiming the room for herself which isn’t fair since it is your room as well. My roommate last year did that to me and it sucked. I agree with everyone that you should either talk to your roommate face to face or contact your RA for help. I kind of ended up letting my roommate take over the room because I am not a confrontational person. It wasn’t fun and I ended up going home a lot on the weekends because of it. I don’t want that to happen to you. So reach out to your roommate or RA. If you don’t feel comfortable doing that then go to the residential life office and ask to speak to someone there. Im sure they have dealt with this issue before and will probably be helpful. Good luck and get help sooner rather than later. </p>