<p>So I'm bringing the fridge. I asked him if he's bringing a tv and he said no, so my parents are getting me a tv. I'm bringing a microwave and printer too, which he isn't. I feel like inevitably he's going to want to use them, but I'm ****ed off that he's not bringing anything (and also he lives an hour away and I live across the country). If I tell him 'No', is that being rude?</p>
<p>Did you ever consider that he might not have the money for it?</p>
<p>Yes, it’s rude. Sad that he’s not contributing though. Maybe can’t afford it. If you don’t want to haul anything (or have it shipped) check Craig’s list in the area you’re going and see if you can’t buy one cheaper. There’s always Wal-Mart.</p>
<p>I checked his housing address. He can afford it. Transporting it isn’t an issue, it’s the space on my side of the room for all of it.</p>
<p>If he wants to use it, it goes on his side too. If he wants it on your side only, he doesn’t get to use it. This discussion already doesn’t bode well for the future year.</p>
<p>What do you mean you checked his housing address and know he can afford it? Maybe he just has no use for those things.</p>
<p>Also, it costs $150 for cable service so I assume I’ll have to pay for all of that. That’s why I feel like I have a right to tell him ‘no’</p>
<p>When your house is valued at a certain level, I feel like a tv won’t break the bank.</p>
<p>If he doesn’t have a use for them, then I don’t care because he won’t use them. But this is in the case he asks.</p>
<p>I feel sorry for your roommate. Why would you need a tv and cable in your dorm room? If you just want to stay in your room and watch tv, live at home and go to the local cc.</p>
<p>Just because you know where he live doesn’t tell you anything - you’re awfully presumptuous to assume that you know how wealthy he might be based on his address. On our street alone we have families in the upper middle class a few doors away from dirt poor families with rent subsidies.</p>
<p>You have limited space in your room - you need to make some choices. Do you have space for all of these toys, because you don’t really need them. OK, a small fridge is nice, so you can have cold drinks in the room, and if you want to store leftovers after you go out. OK, a microwave might be nice, but is one available in the common area of your dorm? A television? Are you going to college to learn, and be part of a community, or to watch movies and play video games? When she goes away next year my D will not take a TV, and I hope her roommate doesn’t either! </p>
<p>You’re worried your roommate might want to use your toys; maybe your roommate might be worried you’re going to want to use his space, and use your TV all the time, making it impossible to use as a quiet study space. Did you actually discuss whether you need these items in your room? Your roommate might not be able to afford them (despite what you think about his address), or he might choose not to use them - he has that right! If you’re that worried about having to share your toys, don’t take them with you!</p>
<p>Lax, just because someone lives in a certain area doesn’t mean they want to waste money on things like that. </p>
<p>And $150 for cable? That’s beyond ridiculous.</p>
<p>And it’s 150 a semester, 300 a year…</p>
<p>Still not a necessary expense. Still ridiculous to pay imo. Maybe he feels the same way.</p>
<p>Well, some people don’t watch TV enough to make it worth bringing one, I take it you can’t do without one. </p>
<p>A printer isn’t needed either, same with a microwave, me and my roommate hardly used either.</p>
<p>also, you should be able to use everything when you move out to an apartment after the dorms, so it’s not money wasted.</p>
<p>That is a lot of money for cable. Maybe he watches TV on his computer. With Netflix, and HULU, HULU Plus and Amazon streaming, you don’t really need cable to watch your favorite shows.
Maybe he doesn’t need a printer because he’s using the library and computer labs.
Maybe he doesn’t need a fridge because he doesn’t plan on bringing food back to the room.</p>
<p>I def. think it’s a bit too early to get on his case about stuff when you haven’t even met him. There is literally no reason to be peeved off about this. He has a right to not bring electronics if he doesn’t want them. Just because he’s not bringing anything like that down doesn’t mean he’s going to ask you for it. Chill. It’s way too early to start being mad at him about something.</p>
<p>I was hoping for NO tv in my son’s room. His roommate is bringing the tv and the xbox. Bummer.</p>
<p>Yeah…you don’t know if he uses those things enough for him to bring one. If he wants to use something of yours, I don’t think it’s worth getting mad over, unless he’s constantly using it. You could set some rules, like you guys share your printer but he buys paper for it. Also, the fact that he’s not bringing a tv doesn’t say anything about him. I would hate to have a tv in my dorm/apartment.</p>
<p>^^ Agreed. I really would rethink the whole TV thing. It’s so much easier to watch most TV shows on your computer now anyway, and your dorm probably has common areas with TVs. I spent three years in dorms at boarding school and am about to start my third year in a dorm at my university, and have never brought a TV or had a roommate who brought one. You’ll be busy enough as is!</p>
<p>You should set some ground rules with your roommate when he get to the room. Perhap ask him about if he would like to use some of the stuffs you are bringing. If he said no, then there’s a chance he don’t need it…and that’s something to consider (to bring or not).</p>
<p>Judging people by address is not real accurate. My family’s street address had an average house price at $745k, but there several homes under $100k (3 homes under $20k even)…so evaluating by address may not tell you if your roommate can afford something or not.</p>
<p>I would say bringing a TV is just gonna distract you from studying, and you should talk with other people more than the TV or gaming. Even though I will be bringing a XBox to my dorm, I expect no more than an hour on it all week. Talking with floor mates or building mates are sorta better than being inside the room. Of course, rainy days may be tough…but doable I think.</p>
<p>If he has the address, street and number, he can put it in Google Maps and see how big the house is. He can get an idea about the family’s wealth.</p>
<p>I can’t afford to bring any of those things and I live 90 minutes from campus, if my roommate contacts me asking about stuff to bring I’ll simply tell them I can’t bring any appliances for the dorm. We have a niceish house but are struggling to pay with my siblings in college and financial aid not giving us anything and are in lots of debt… When you have a cafeteria and a meal plan I don’t think its a big deal.</p>